How to rebuild trust in a relationship after betrayal
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What If My Spouse Won’t Come to Counseling? 4 Practical Steps to Try
One of the most common questions we hear is: “What do I do if my spouse refuses marriage counseling?” It can feel discouraging when one partner is open to seeking help while the other is resistant. Maybe your spouse had a bad experience in the past. Maybe they don’t believe therapy works. Or maybe they […]
Are trial separations a good idea? Do trial separations really work?
Therapists often recommend doing a trial separation from each other to see if absence can make the heart grow fonder for couples that are going through a lot of conflict. But is this recommendation a good idea? Do trial separations really work? In this podcast episode below, we discuss three reasons why trial separation may […]
4 Ways to Enjoy Better Communication in Marriage for Better Connection: Are You Making These Communication Mistakes?
Are you and your spouse struggling to communicate without fighting, shutting down, or feeling misunderstood? You’re not alone. Communication challenges are one of the biggest reasons couples feel disconnected in their marriage. The good news: communication is a skill you can learn — and when you do, the connection, intimacy, and teamwork return. In this […]
Do you believe in soulmates?
As a Rabbi and psychotherapist, I do believe we have soulmates. In my work with couples, I see how this plays out, particularly from the vantage point of Imago Relationship Therapy. The Journey We believe in Imago theory that a person is always attracted to the most positive and negative character traits of their primary […]
How to Stick to Your New Year’s Resolution in 2025 (Even If You’ve Failed Before)
Every December, millions of us tell ourselves: “This is the year I’ll finally stick to my resolution.” Yet by February, most goals have fizzled out. Sound familiar? After the upheaval of the past few years, it’s natural to wonder if setting resolutions even matters anymore. With so much out of our control, why bother? But […]
Control Issues in a Relationship
“Control issues” usually stem from fear or anxiety. When a person is afraid of an outcome or wants things to be a certain way, they can become rigid. By feeling a sense of control, they can reduce their anxiety and feel that they have power. While it is easy to label someone as controlling, it […]
Holiday Parenting Tips for Married Couples: How to Stay United (and Sane)
Holidays are supposed to be magical. But for many married couples, they’re also the most stressful time of the year. Between extended family expectations, financial pressures, and kids bouncing off the walls with excitement, it’s easy for stress to turn into arguments. As a licensed therapist who has worked with couples for over 20 years, […]
Is my spouse a narcissist?
Think your spouse is a narcissist? Thankfully there are a lot more resources out there to support a spouse married to an abusive partner. The most important thing is always to make sure that you are physically safe and not in danger. If you are truly safe and you’re just wondering about something someone may […]
Best Gifts to Give Your Spouse According to Their Love Language
The Five Love Languages have been something I have taught my couples for years and people usually find it extremely valuable. Couples often wonder what to gift their partner based on their spouse’s unique love language. Gifts for the Five Love Languages Words of affirmation While everyone enjoys a good word, some of us need […]
Mismatched sexual desire
If you and your partner have mismatched sexual desire, with one of you desiring intimacy moreso than the other, that can feel very frustrating. Use the following tips to help you regain desire for each other and improve your intimate life. Improving your physical connection with each other 1. Use the Imago Dialogue, to communicate […]
3 Boundaries You Should Never Cross in Marriage (If You Want Lasting Love)
Boundaries in marriage are often misunderstood. Many think they create distance, but the truth is, healthy boundaries create safety, trust, and respect—the very foundation of intimacy. Think of boundaries as guardrails that protect your relationship from resentment, burnout, and emotional flooding. When couples blur or ignore them, trust erodes. When couples honor them, connection deepens. […]
How to Cope With Grief After Divorce: Stages, Timeline, and Healing Tips
Divorce grief can feel overwhelming. The end of a marriage isn’t just the loss of a partner—it’s the loss of shared dreams, routines, and part of your identity. Research shows divorce grief can mirror the intensity of losing a loved one¹. The good news: you’re not alone. Millions of people go through this every year, […]
How to Handle It When Your Partner Brings Work Stress Home
Work stress doesn’t just stay at the office—it often shows up at home too. If your spouse comes in the door tense, distracted, or irritable, it can leave you feeling ignored, frustrated, or resentful. This is common for couples, but if it’s not addressed, it can chip away at closeness over time. The good news? […]
Are you a saver or spender? Do your spouse’s money habits upset you?
Some people are savers, others are spenders. These personalities type are formed based on what we saw growing up. Some are consistent with what we saw and others do the opposite of what we saw. Either way, our early models impact our money personalities. Awareness of money types and childhood beliefs about money help couples […]
How to Support Your Spouse Through Grief or Depression (Even When It Lasts Longer Than You’d Like)
When your partner is going through grief or depression, it’s natural to want them to “get better” quickly—not only for their sake, but for your own. But healing rarely follows our preferred timetable. In marriage, part of the journey is learning to make space for the other, even when life feels disrupted. What Would You […]
What to Do When Your Spouse Is Unreliable (and How to Rebuild Trust)
Feeling like your spouse is unreliable can be deeply disappointing. Life is hard enough—raising kids, working, managing responsibilities—without feeling like you can’t depend on your partner. For many couples, unreliability creates frustration, resentment, and even questions like: “Can I stay in this marriage if my spouse doesn’t change?” Here are some common reasons your partner […]
Should You Work on Your Own “Stuff” Before Trying Couples Therapy?
Should I go to individual therapy before couples therapy? What if my therapist says I’m the problem in my marriage? Can couples therapy help if childhood trauma is involved? Do I need to fix myself before marriage counseling? For many couples, even deciding to go to marriage counseling is a big leap. You may worry […]
When to Seek Marriage Counseling: 14 Signs It’s Time to Get Help
If you’re wondering when to seek marriage counseling, and if it’s too late or not, you’re not alone. Many couples ask this question—sometimes when the signs are glaring, and other times when things feel “off” but not catastrophic. What’s obvious to one partner may not be obvious to the other. Signs that marriage counseling can […]
What is the best marital therapy? How is Gottman different from Imago therapy?
With all of the choices of marriage counselors practicing different kinds of therapy modalities out there, how can you know what is the best marital therapy and most importantly, what is the best marriage help for your unique situation? Let’s talk about the differences between Gottman therapy and Imago therapy as those are two very […]