If you’re a mental health professional that works with couples, you might be looking for worksheets and exercises that you can use to enhance your work. There are a number of wonderful exercises and resources that Imago therapy uses that will help you.
If you haven’t heard of Imago therapy before, here are some videos of celebrities talking about how it saved their marriages and interviewing it’s founder, Dr. Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love You Want. Enjoy!
Couples Therapy Exercises (For Therapy use and at home)
- To deepen the couples therapy experience, therapists can use this Sentence Stem Therapy Bundle to help the client understand more about what they are feeling and put words to gain consciousness and new awareness about what’s going on when they’re feeling triggered, helping the client take responsibility, and realize it may be less about their spouse than it is about their own experience! An essential tool and resource for any therapist working with couples!
This is a DIGITAL DOWNLOAD which you will receive upon payment. You can print the download at home or at your favorite print shop for personal use. If you find the resource helpful, feel free to recommend our ETSY shop or our website-the download is for sale and copyrighted.
2. The Relationship Vision Exercise– A great way to get couples on the same page and chart a course forward for their relationship. This exercise allows both partners to craft their hopes and dreams for their marriage and then compare visions. The couple then works together to create a joint vision that combines both of their “mission statements”. It’s an opportunity to understand some of their different priorities and ascertain what their growth areas are to work on.
Couples can work on their relation vision inside of the beautiful journal we created expressly for this purpose. The Relationship Vision Couples Reconnection Journal can be purchased on Amazon.
3. Caring Behaviors Exercise- Couples have different ways of expressing their love for one another and often risk missing the mark. Couples can learn about each other’s love languages by sharing a list of all of the behaviors that have made them feel loved and cared for in the past, present as well as future wishes. This becomes a behavioral exercise where couples take their partner’s list and do 2-3 of the behaviors on a daily basis to express the love the way their partner needs to feel it. These lists are also inside of the Couples Reconnection Journal.
A quick positive exercise will give couples more “bang for their buck” in a therapy office because it is simple, powerful, and a great way to remove negativity and focus on what is right with the relationship, not what is wrong with it, making regular deposits into their emotional marriage bank account
The best way for couples to process frustrations in a safe, connected setting. The structure enables couples to open up, experience emotional intimacy, and resolve long standing conflict without your office turning into a battle royale.
You can watch us using the Imago dialogue in our Marriage & Communication video course available here: Imago is famous for the dialogue yet it is much more than a simple communication technique.
What if relationship problems could be boiled down into a simple relationship style difference? This exercise is an eye-opener in normalizing the conflict that couples experience as well as providing hope of a new way forward. When couples learn how they get “safe” and how that evokes the opposite response in their partner, they can adopt new strategies for more effective interactions.
The Turtles and Hailstorms exercises are inside the workbooks we provide in the No Blame, No Shame Communication Course available here at this link.
Watch Rabbi Slatkin’s EliTalks video on this page explaining how conflict is all a part of the greater plan of relationships. The very reason you fell in love with your spouse in the first place. This counterintuitive concept helps you view relationships from the macro level and will renew hope and commitment for the everlasting bond that you call your marriage. *NOTE- Imago therapy is NOT a religious based therapy modality. This video was given to a Jewish audience and is for all to enjoy!
8. If you are a therapist that is excited to have resources at your disposal and you would also like to join our private Facebook group for mental health professionals to be able to improve their skills in working with couples, please join us for additional free couples therapy resources inside of the Free Resources for Couples Therapists Community. A wonderful side benefit is that working on your own marriage will actually help you become a better health professional, especially if you are working with couples.
We will also be launching a unique program for therapists in the Spring of 2021 so please email us to get on the waiting list.
9.Imago therapy is an extremely effective modality of couples therapy and was founded by Dr. Harville Hendrix back in the 80s. His Getting the Love You Want foundational book and Getting the Love You Want ™ workshops are an amazing place to send couples who you may feel stuck with in sessions. We find that couples who attend the GTLYW workshops come back to therapy much more emotionally aware, poised to make greater progress and bigger breakthroughs in their relationship due to the amount of relationship education they receive during the workshop on things like -childhood trauma, unmet needs, relationship baggage. We are licensed to run GTLYW workshops are have several coming up in Costa Rica and Miami Beach! Also an amazing opportunity for a therapist to vacation + experience relational work with your partner if you are in a relationship + see an Imago training live in action, so you can become a better therapist working with couples as well! Love to help you if you’re interested, feel free to text or contact us. CEUs are available!
*Individual Results May Vary