How to Be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage: Can You Really Rebuild Connection?
If you’ve found yourself thinking, “I love my spouse, but I’m not happy anymore”—you’re not alone. Thousands of people ask versions of this very question every day on forums like Reddit, Quora, and relationship advice blogs. The good news? Feeling unhappy in marriage doesn’t automatically mean it’s over. With the right tools, many couples move […]
[Podcast Episode 006] Validation Techniques for Couples
Feeling Heard & Validated: Why It Matters in Marriage In a recent podcast conversation, Rivka shared a moment that may hit home for many couples: she was left feeling unheard and invalidated by an acquaintance. It raised an important question — do you feel truly heard and validated by your spouse? Below, we explore why […]
[Relationship Help Podcast Episode 007] How we create our worst nightmare: My childhood is affecting my relationship!
When we get married, according to Imago therapy (the couples work that we practice exclusively), we are driven automatically to recreate our childhoods. What? How do we do this and why is this such an amazing opportunity for relationship help? Help for when “My childhood is affecting my relationship!” More inspiration on Imago therapy and […]
Being Married Is Good for Your Health! Science Explains Why
Can marriage really make you healthier? Research says yes. From reduced risk of alcoholism to quicker recovery from diseases like cancer and heart attacks, studies consistently show that marriage is linked to better health outcomes and longer life. Of course, not just any marriage—healthy, supportive relationships bring the greatest benefits. Toxic or high-conflict marriages can […]
What to do if you’re in an abusive relationship
No form of abuse is ever acceptable. Whether it is physical, verbal, or emotional, abuse damages trust, erodes safety, and prevents a healthy relationship from growing. While some unhealthy patterns can be addressed in therapy, if you are in physical danger, your first priority is to get safe. Call 911 (in the U.S.), reach out […]
Protecting Your Children’s Stability While Deciding the Future of Your Marriage
When your marriage is in a season of uncertainty, one of the hardest questions to face is: How will this affect the kids? You may be weighing whether to stay together, take a break, or separate—and in the middle of that emotional storm, your children still need stability, security, and love. The good news is […]
How to Communicate Better at Work with Relationship Intelligence
Most people spend more waking hours with their coworkers than with their own families. That means the way you communicate at work doesn’t just influence projects and deadlines—it shapes your company’s culture, productivity, and even profitability. Relationship Intelligence (RQ) is the ability to understand, manage, and repair relationships under stress. While IQ and EQ are […]
How to fix my marriage by myself: Improve your marriage when your spouse is not interested
Key Takeaways You can improve your marriage when your spouse is not interested by changing your approach—lowering defensiveness, raising safety, and modeling new patterns. Start with self-change (calm curiosity instead of criticism), then consistent appreciation, real listening, and daily acts of care. Use scripts and micro-habits to avoid overwhelm; small, repeated behaviors shift the emotional […]
Interview with Laura Doyle, Author of “First Kill All The Marriage Counselors”
Have you heard of the book, First Kill All the Marriage Counselors? We have, and we interviewed the author for our podcast, “Can this Marriage be Saved”. It’s a great interview and we wanted to share it with you by way of audio recording and written transcript below. Laura Doyle’s wisdom for women is bold, […]
Change Your Thoughts About Your Marriage: How to Stop Overthinking and Reconnect
A reader once sent me this quote: “I’m glad that what’s going on in my head isn’t happening in my life.” It struck me because so many of us — especially when we feel insecure in our marriage — create stories in our head that aren’t based on reality. We assume the worst, replay imagined […]
[Relationship Help Podcast Episode 007] Is Your Childhood Affecting Your Marriage?
Key Takeaways Marriage often brings up unfinished business from childhood — wounds, unmet needs, and family patterns. Many people unconsciously marry someone like their parents (or react strongly against them). If you didn’t pick a partner similar to your parents, you may still provoke or project old wounds onto your spouse. Recognizing how childhood trauma […]
Is it possible to “declutter” a relationship using the KonMari Method for Marriage?
There’s a lot of talk about the Konmari method and how to declutter your life and home. Couples also want to know about how they can de-clutter their relationship and if such a thing exists. We think it’s possible to cut out extraneous relationship clutter and here’s how.
Hope for your marriage: Why It’s Not Too Late to Rebuild
If you find yourself thinking, “there is no hope for my marriage,” it’s important to know that the belief “some marriages are just doomed to fail” is a myth¹. Research and decades of clinical practice suggest that most couples can repair and even strengthen their relationship when the right tools are applied². At The Marriage […]
Separating After the Holidays
Holidays are a tense time. I have spent many counseling sessions over the years working with couples on issues relating to preparing for an upcoming holiday or recovering from the aftermath of a disastrous holiday. Here’s what you need to know if you’re thinking about separating after the holidays. More inspiration about dealing with holiday […]
My husband is out of work and depressed
When should you cut your partner some slack? One of the hardest times to do this is when your husband is out of work and depressed but that is when he needs it the most. And it may not be why you think! Keep reading about the Fear/Shame Dynamic. More inspiration about when your husband […]
Post Election Depression and Anxiety
Wow, what a week it has been. For our readers in the U.S., it has been a particularly divisive and polarized election season. The election results have left half the country elated while the other half is depressed. You’ve probably heard the stories about therapy appointments filling up. Many people are having a hard time […]
Married to a Narcissist: What can you do besides leave? (Podcast)
We’d like to share with you our latest podcast episode: Married to a Narcissist: What can you do besides leave and still lead a happy life? Listen along to the podcast and read the written transcript while following along.
From Me to You as an Adult Child of Divorce: Rivka’s Popular Marriage Videos
Are you an adult child of divorce? There are so many of us out there, and whether you are an adult child of divorce or not, these marriage videos will help you.
Celebrity Marriage Counseling: Read This Before You End It
Key takeaways (for high-profile couples) Fame amplifies normal marital stressors—privacy, schedules, staff, and scrutiny. A confidential, no-blame intensive gives you clarity fast, off-camera. Don’t make a forever decision in a fight. Use a structured pause (discernment first, then repair) so you’re acting consciously, not reactively. If you share children, you’ll be in each other’s lives […]
Feeling Drained in Your Marriage? How to Reset When You’re Giving More Than You’re Getting
Do you feel utterly drained in your relationship—like you’re giving everything but not getting the same in return? Maybe summer left you exhausted from entertaining kids. Maybe you’ve compared your marriage to others and felt let down. Or perhaps you’re simply tired of carrying the load without appreciation. You’re not alone. Many spouses feel this […]