How to Be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage: Can You Really Rebuild Connection?
If you’ve found yourself thinking, “I love my spouse, but I’m not happy anymore”—you’re not alone. Thousands of people ask versions of this very question every day on forums like Reddit, Quora, and relationship advice blogs. The good news? Feeling unhappy in marriage doesn’t automatically mean it’s over. With the right tools, many couples move […]
[Podcast Episode 006] “Frenemies” and Friends: Who helps you feel heard and validated?
In this podcast episode designed to provide you with relationship help, Rivka shared an experience she had recently with an acquaintance where she was left feeling unheard and invalidated. Do you feel heard and validated by a particular friend? There’s nothing like it 🙂
[Relationship Help Podcast Episode 007] How we create our worst nightmare: My childhood is affecting my relationship!
When we get married, according to Imago therapy (the couples work that we practice exclusively), we are driven automatically to recreate our childhoods. What? How do we do this and why is this such an amazing opportunity for relationship help? Help for when “My childhood is affecting my relationship!” More inspiration on Imago therapy and […]
Being Married Is Good for Your Health! Science Explains Why
Can marriage really make you healthier? Research says yes. From reduced risk of alcoholism to quicker recovery from diseases like cancer and heart attacks, studies consistently show that marriage is linked to better health outcomes and longer life. Of course, not just any marriage—healthy, supportive relationships bring the greatest benefits. Toxic or high-conflict marriages can […]
What to do if you’re in an abusive relationship
There are varying degrees of an abusive relationship. No abuse is acceptable and is an impediment to building a safe and loving relationship. While it is possible for abuse to stop, it is incumbent on the victim of physical abuse to put oneself out of danger and get safe. Verbal and emotional abuse can be […]
Protecting Your Children’s Stability While Deciding the Future of Your Marriage
When your marriage is in a season of uncertainty, one of the hardest questions to face is: How will this affect the kids? You may be weighing whether to stay together, take a break, or separate—and in the middle of that emotional storm, your children still need stability, security, and love. The good news is […]
How to Communicate Better at Work with Relationship Intelligence
Most people spend more waking hours with their coworkers than with their own families. That means the way you communicate at work doesn’t just influence projects and deadlines—it shapes your company’s culture, productivity, and even profitability. Relationship Intelligence (RQ) is the ability to understand, manage, and repair relationships under stress. While IQ and EQ are […]
4 Ways to Improve Your Marriage When Your Spouse Is Not Interested
Do you wish your marriage could be better even when your spouse isn’t interested? Are there changes you’d like to see in your spouse but you don’t know how to even broach the subject? A couple should ideally work together on their relationship, but if you find yourself going at it alone, don’t despair. Here are […]
Interview with Laura Doyle, Author of “First Kill All The Marriage Counselors”
Have you heard of the book, First Kill All the Marriage Counselors? We have, and we interviewed the author for our podcast, “Can this Marriage be Saved”. It’s a great interview and we wanted to share it with you by way of audio recording and written transcript below. Laura Doyle’s wisdom for women is bold, […]
Change your thoughts about your Marriage.
One of our readers recently sent me this quote: “I’m glad that what’s going on in my head isn’t happening in my life.” This made me think about the stories we often make up in our head. Consider what would happen if you change your thoughts about your marriage especially if your worried about marriage […]
[Relationship Help Podcast Episode 007] Is your childhood affecting your marriage?
Is your childhood affecting your marriage? Marriage is truly the “unfinished business” of childhood. What does that mean and how does it affect you? We are all in marriages that are going to resemble our childhoods-in obvious ways and not so obvious ways. You can hear some of the not-so obvious ways that Rivka and […]
Is it possible to “declutter” a relationship using the KonMari Method for Marriage?
There’s a lot of talk about the Konmari method and how to declutter your life and home. Couples also want to know about how they can de-clutter their relationship and if such a thing exists. We think it’s possible to cut out extraneous relationship clutter and here’s how.
Hope for your marriage: Why It’s Not Too Late to Rebuild
If you find yourself thinking, “there is no hope for my marriage,” it’s important to know that the belief “some marriages are just doomed to fail” is a myth¹. Research and decades of clinical practice suggest that most couples can repair and even strengthen their relationship when the right tools are applied². At The Marriage […]
Separating After the Holidays
Holidays are a tense time. I have spent many counseling sessions over the years working with couples on issues relating to preparing for an upcoming holiday or recovering from the aftermath of a disastrous holiday. Here’s what you need to know if you’re thinking about separating after the holidays. More inspiration about dealing with holiday […]
My husband is out of work and depressed
When should you cut your partner some slack? One of the hardest times to do this is when your husband is out of work and depressed but that is when he needs it the most. And it may not be why you think! Keep reading about the Fear/Shame Dynamic. More inspiration about when your husband […]
Post Election Depression and Anxiety
Wow, what a week it has been. For our readers in the U.S., it has been a particularly divisive and polarized election season. The election results have left half the country elated while the other half is depressed. You’ve probably heard the stories about therapy appointments filling up. Many people are having a hard time […]
Married to a Narcissist: What can you do besides leave? (Podcast)
We’d like to share with you our latest podcast episode: Married to a Narcissist: What can you do besides leave and still lead a happy life? Listen along to the podcast and read the written transcript while following along.
From Me to You as an Adult Child of Divorce: Rivka’s Popular Marriage Videos
Are you an adult child of divorce? There are so many of us out there, and whether you are an adult child of divorce or not, these marriage videos will help you.
A letter to Angelina Jolie: Before you end your marriage permanently…
Curious about what happened in the Angelina Jolie Brad Pitt divorce? Read our letter to Angelina Jolie: Before you end your marriage permanently…
Feeling Drained in Your Marriage? How to Reset When You’re Giving More Than You’re Getting
Do you feel utterly drained in your relationship—like you’re giving everything but not getting the same in return? Maybe summer left you exhausted from entertaining kids. Maybe you’ve compared your marriage to others and felt let down. Or perhaps you’re simply tired of carrying the load without appreciation. You’re not alone. Many spouses feel this […]