Choosing Each Other Again: The Imago Way to a Conscious Marriage (Part 1)
I. Wondering whether you married the right person is normal When you first decided to be together, there was a compelling reason behind that choice—a reason that Imago relationship therapy believes is foundational and significant. We’ll talk more about that reason in just a bit. As the initial excitement of a relationship fades, it’s common […]
Do we still believe in marriage?
In 2017 I published an article called “How My Therapist Destroyed My Marriage“. It was pretty controversial. I got a lot of “hate mail” from other therapists. Others Have Experienced Nightmarish Marriage Counseling Fails as Well I must admit that I felt a little intimidated until my phone started ringing (and still does) with those […]
How to Apologize to Your Spouse Effectively: Healing Through Imago Therapy Techniques
Navigating the Path to Sincere Apologies In every marriage, the journey is filled with moments of joy and challenges, where the words we choose and the way we communicate can either build bridges or walls between us. Apologizing to your spouse, a simple yet profound act, often becomes a stumbling block for many couples. It’s […]
Reviving Connection: Solving Common Communication Challenges in Marriage with Imago Therapy
Alex and Jordan used to talk about everything, from the big dreams to the small details of their day, feeling connected in a way that seemed unbreakable.Their early days were filled with deep discussions and laughter over morning coffee. But as time passed, those easy, deep conversations started to fade. Now, they find themselves stuck […]
Enhancing Your Relationship Through Self-Care, Together: A Mutual Journey to Well-being
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that taking care of ourselves somehow takes away from our relationships. We’re often led to believe that the more we give and sacrifice, the better partners we are. But here’s the truth: neglecting our own well-being doesn’t make us better lovers or friends; it just leaves […]
Understanding Emotional Intimacy: What It Is, Why It’s Essential & How to Cultivate It
Cultivating Deeper Emotional Connections in Your Relationship Exploring the Essence of Emotional Intimacy in Relationships Have you ever felt a lingering sense of longing in your relationship, a subtle yet persistent feeling that something essential is missing, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Often, this gap we sense is not due to […]
Rekindling the Spark: 5 Actionable Steps When You Love Your Spouse But Aren’t In Love
Navigating the Evolving Stages of Marriage When you first said “I do,” you likely found yourself in the enchanting honeymoon phase of marriage, where everything felt perfect, and your love seemed unshakeable. This blissful period, characterized by deep attraction and an overwhelming sense of unity, represents the first stage of a marital journey. However, as […]
Overcoming Silence: 5 Thoughtful Strategies For When Your Spouse Avoids Relationship Talks
How to Encourage Open Dialogue in Your Marriage Navigating a relationship where one partner is hesitant to discuss issues can feel like walking through a maze blindfolded. Their reluctance to communicate can leave you feeling isolated and perplexed, pondering over a myriad of unanswered questions. Is it fear, misunderstanding, or perhaps a deep-seated belief that […]
15 Positive Signs of a Healthy Marriage: Expert Insights from a Relationship Therapist
Celebrating the Strengths of Your Marriage: 15 Green Flags to Look For We often hear about red flags in relationships—the signs of distress or disconnection. But it’s just as important, if not more so, to recognize the green flags—the signs that your marriage is not just surviving, but thriving. After working with many couples over […]
3 Key Strategies to Strengthen Your Marriage When Times Get Tough
When the Easy Road Turns Rocky in relationships. Strengthening Your Marriage with Resilience Perhaps you didn’t expect your marriage to be a walk in the park. At the same time, you may not have anticipated it’d be so tough at times. Some days it feels like you’re on a smooth path, hand in hand, everything […]
Think You & Your Husband or Wife are Incompatible After Years of Marriage?
You didn’t get married expecting to feel this alone. The tension. The arguments over the smallest things. The silence that lingers even when nothing is wrong. You start to wonder:“Are we just too different? Are we even compatible anymore?” It’s a painful question. But before you decide incompatibility is the issue, consider this:Most couples who […]
Criticism of Imago Therapy for Couples & Situations When IRT Yields the Best Outcome
The goal of Imago relationship therapy is to help married couples build a deeper connection and improve their marriages through empathy and communication. Like all therapeutic modalities and approaches there are situations when Imago therapy may not be the best method. Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT) has gained significant popularity as a therapeutic approach to helping […]
4 Romantic Waterfalls to Discover with Your Spouse in Guanacaste, Costa Rica
Guanacaste is the northwest province of Costa Rica boasting an abundance of breathtaking natural wonders like lagoons, volcanic formations, thermal springs, and of course otherworldly waterfalls. Scientists discovered that the negative ions that are emitted when water molecules collide create a sense of euphoria, making waterfalls one of the most romantic destinations for couples around […]
If you’re feeling BETRAYED by your husband or wife & you feel like you can’t TRUST.
Cheating stinks. Whether it’s a physical or emotional affair – there’s a lot of trust that now has to be rebuilt if you are going to try and stay together. Working to repair on your own can be challenging and this video can help you start the affair repair process. You’ll want to also consult […]
3 Hidden Beaches to Explore with Your Spouse on Your Retreat’s Rest Days in Costa Rica
We’ve been hosting couples at marriage counseling retreats in Costa Rica for a few years now. During our time here we’ve been fortunate enough to discover some hidden beaches that you can discover with your husband or wife on your retreat’s rest days. We’re talking a pink sand beach, a hidden beach you must know […]
Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin’s Recent News Contributions and Online Features
Browse some of Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin’s recent contributions and expert advice from columnists, journalists, and reporters. Need to interview a licensed, experienced marriage counselor? Fill out the contact form at the bottom of the page to request answers, advice, or expert information about a topic related to couples therapy. We’re also happy to verify facts […]
Enhancing Emotional Connection in Your Relationship by Creating Meaningful Moments
Feel Like Your Partner Doesn’t Do Anything Special for You? Here’s How to Reconnect Emotionally — One Moment at a Time You don’t want fancy things.You just want to feel like your partner sees you. You want to feel cared for, remembered, appreciated — not just someone who shares a house or raises kids with […]
Recognizing the Four Horsemen in Your Own Marriage According to Gottman
John Gottman borrowed the four horsemen of marriage from the four horsemen of the apocalypse in the Christian religion. Recognizing the four horsemen in your own relationship is crucial for you both to mitigate a destructive fight.The four horsemen of marriage are behaviors and feelings that can destroy a healthy relationship according to John Gottman, […]
What are Divorce Prevention Retreats?
Has the health of your marriage relationship spiraled out of control? If you feel that you are on the brink of splitting up with your spouse our divorce prevention retreats can help. The goal of our intensive marriage retreats is to prevent divorce by helping you and your spouse reconnect and bring back the spark […]
Wife Yells at Me: Why & How to Make it Stop
Does your wife yell and scream at you often? If the behavior is relatively new there could be an unresolved issue or point of contention that you need to address together to stop the loud outbursts. If the yelling is chronic behavior you should know that yelling at your spouse is an unproductive and unhealthy […]