Is this Your Marriage? Take the Maximizer or Minimizer Quiz and Get a Helpful Assessment of the State Your Relationship!
Did the Maximizer/Minimizer dynamic feel familiar to you? It’s based on Imago Therapy’s turtles and hailstorm dynamic which is a relief for so many couples to discover. If these quiz questions describe your relationship we can help you! All of our programs (workshops, courses, private intensive counseling address and explore how to fix it through […]
Is There Something Wrong With Going to Couples Therapy? 4 Things Therapists Want You to Know First
If you’re thinking about going to marriage therapy, you might quietly be asking yourself: Does this mean something is wrong with my relationship? Many couples are asking the question, “Is there something wrong with going to couples therapy?” You are NOT alone. Seeking therapy is often a sign of strength, not failure. The reason your […]
Supporting Your Spouse During Stressful Times: How to Stay Connected When Life Gets Hard
All of us face stressful seasons in life. But lately, challenges feel especially heavy—world conflict, financial uncertainty, health concerns. Even if the stress isn’t directly about your marriage, outside pressures inevitably spill over into the relationship. In times like these, marriage matters more than ever. Your partner should be a safe haven—a source of comfort, […]
Is a Disagreement with In-Laws Affecting Your Marriage?
In-law relationships can have a significant impact on a marriage. That’s why conflict with in-laws requires a united front that puts your marital relationship before the relationship you have with your parents. Perhaps you’ve experienced varying levels of joy and tension while interacting with your mother-in-law or father-in-law. But when the dynamics between spouses and […]
Reestablishing Trust After Infidelity
Learning that your partner was physically intimate with someone else can leave you reeling. But despite how painful it can be, infidelity is not necessarily the beginning of the end for every marriage. For some couples, an extramarital affair even acts as a powerful, if unwanted, catalyst for positive growth within the relationship. As devastating […]
People in Conventional Relationships can Learn a Lot from Neurodiverse Couples
Couples with one or both partners on the autism spectrum face challenges just like people in typical relationships do. Neurodiverse couples face communication challenges that can be addressed to maintain healthy, fulfilling, and long-lasting relationships. That said, there are plenty of unique strengths or benefits to being in a neurodiverse relationship! And while no two […]
After the Affair: How Honest Communication Can Help You Heal or Move On
Learning to Communicate Again After Infidelity Learning how to communicate again after experiencing infidelity is one of the most difficult obstacles a couple can face in a lifetime. However, it’s worth putting in the work because a relationship can never experience a deep emotional connection if partners cannot express themselves openly and feel understood. Infidelity […]
Do You Believe in Soulmates? What Imago Therapy Teaches Us About Marriage
Everywhere from Reddit threads to dinner table debates, people ask: “Are soulmates real — or just a romantic myth?” As a Rabbi and psychotherapist, I see this question come up often in my work with couples. From an Imago Relationship Therapy perspective, the answer isn’t as simple as yes or no. In many ways, soulmates […]
Why It’s Important to Go On Dates with Your Spouse & 3 Ideas to Try
Remember the excitement you felt when you were first dating your spouse? The amount of care you put into your outfit and your appearance? The anticipation of seeing each other and the strong desire to reach out and connect again? Going on dates isn’t something only new couples can enjoy. In fact, even though there […]
How to Stick to Your New Year’s Resolution in 2025 (Even If You’ve Failed Before)
Every December, millions of us tell ourselves: “This is the year I’ll finally stick to my resolution.” Yet by February, most goals have fizzled out. Sound familiar? After the upheaval of the past few years, it’s natural to wonder if setting resolutions even matters anymore. With so much out of our control, why bother? But […]
Control Issues in a Relationship
“Control issues” usually stem from fear or anxiety. When a person is afraid of an outcome or wants things to be a certain way, they can become rigid. By feeling a sense of control, they can reduce their anxiety and feel that they have power. While it is easy to label someone as controlling, it […]
Holiday Parenting Tips for Married Couples: How to Stay United (and Sane)
Holidays are supposed to be magical. But for many married couples, they’re also the most stressful time of the year. Between extended family expectations, financial pressures, and kids bouncing off the walls with excitement, it’s easy for stress to turn into arguments. As a licensed therapist who has worked with couples for over 20 years, […]
Is my spouse a narcissist?
Think your spouse is a narcissist? Thankfully there are a lot more resources out there to support a spouse married to an abusive partner. The most important thing is always to make sure that you are physically safe and not in danger. If you are truly safe and you’re just wondering about something someone may […]
Best Gifts to Give Your Spouse According to Their Love Language
The Five Love Languages have been something I have taught my couples for years and people usually find it extremely valuable. Couples often wonder what to gift their partner based on their spouse’s unique love language. Gifts for the Five Love Languages Words of affirmation While everyone enjoys a good word, some of us need […]
What Surrendering in Marriage Really Means (and Why It Builds Trust)
When people hear the word surrender in marriage, it can feel loaded. Many immediately think: Becoming a doormat Losing independence Being taken advantage of But true surrender is not weakness. In fact, it requires self-respect, emotional intelligence, and inner strength. Healthy surrender in marriage is about letting go of unnecessary control, staying open-hearted, and building […]
Mismatched sexual desire
If you and your partner have mismatched sexual desire, with one of you desiring intimacy moreso than the other, that can feel very frustrating. Use the following tips to help you regain desire for each other and improve your intimate life. Improving your physical connection with each other 1. Use the Imago Dialogue, to communicate […]
3 Boundaries You Should Never Cross in Marriage (If You Want Lasting Love)
Boundaries in marriage are often misunderstood. Many think they create distance, but the truth is, healthy boundaries create safety, trust, and respect—the very foundation of intimacy. Think of boundaries as guardrails that protect your relationship from resentment, burnout, and emotional flooding. When couples blur or ignore them, trust erodes. When couples honor them, connection deepens. […]
How to Cope With Grief After Divorce: Stages, Timeline, and Healing Tips
Divorce grief can feel overwhelming. The end of a marriage isn’t just the loss of a partner—it’s the loss of shared dreams, routines, and part of your identity. Research shows divorce grief can mirror the intensity of losing a loved one¹. The good news: you’re not alone. Millions of people go through this every year, […]
How to Handle It When Your Partner Brings Work Stress Home
Work stress doesn’t just stay at the office—it often shows up at home too. If your spouse comes in the door tense, distracted, or irritable, it can leave you feeling ignored, frustrated, or resentful. This is common for couples, but if it’s not addressed, it can chip away at closeness over time. The good news? […]
Are you a saver or spender? Do your spouse’s money habits upset you?
Some people are savers, others are spenders. These personalities type are formed based on what we saw growing up. Some are consistent with what we saw and others do the opposite of what we saw. Either way, our early models impact our money personalities. Awareness of money types and childhood beliefs about money help couples […]