Do You Have to Beg your Spouse for Attention? Learn Tips for a Closer Connection Without Seeming Needy
Do you ever feel invisible in your own marriage—like you have to beg your husband or wife just to notice you? Maybe you’ve caught yourself dropping hints, getting frustrated, or even pulling away because you’re tired of asking for affection and not receiving it. You’re not alone. Feeling neglected by your spouse is one of […]
Guide to Reconnecting with Your Husband or Wife After a Fight
Every couple argues — it’s part of being human. You’re two unique people trying to share a life, and that means there will be moments of disagreement, frustration, or misunderstanding. What matters most isn’t whether you fight — it’s how you repair afterward.When you know how to reconnect after conflict, even heated arguments can become […]
Sending, Receiving, and Growing: Getting the Most Out of Imago Therapy
Our team of marriage counselors help couples from all walks of life rediscover relationship growth, joy, and a deeper connection. We do this using Imago couples therapy, a comprehensive and thoughtfully structured approach to counseling that truly helps people feel seen, heard, validated, and loved by their partners. If you and your spouse have been thinking […]
What If My Spouse Won’t Come to Counseling? 4 Practical Steps to Try
One of the most common questions we hear is: “What do I do if my spouse refuses marriage counseling?” It can feel discouraging when one partner is open to seeking help while the other is resistant. Maybe your spouse had a bad experience in the past. Maybe they don’t believe therapy works. Or maybe they […]
Can a Joint Bank Account Make Your Marriage Better & Last Longer?
Money is one of the most emotionally charged topics in marriage. Some couples feel closer when they share everything — including a bank account. Others prefer financial independence. So which approach builds a stronger, longer-lasting relationship? Recent research suggests that couples who pool their money experience greater trust, connection, and stability than those who keep […]
4 Ways to Enjoy Better Communication in Marriage for Better Connection: Are You Making These Communication Mistakes?
Are you and your spouse struggling to communicate without fighting, shutting down, or feeling misunderstood? You’re not alone. Communication challenges are one of the biggest reasons couples feel disconnected in their marriage. The good news: communication is a skill you can learn — and when you do, the connection, intimacy, and teamwork return. In this […]
Why Curiosity Matters in a Marriage
Most of us are aware that the honeymoon phase in relationships doesn’t last forever. The good news? It doesn’t have to! You and your spouse can enjoy life together in a loving relationship without experiencing the blinding enamor felt in the honeymoon phase. The goal of this article is to explain why keeping a sense of curiosity […]
Fantasizing About Not Being Married? 3 Signs It’s Time for Marriage Counseling
Don’t wait to get help with your marriage, especially if your relationship has become so unhappy that you’re thinking about what it would be like if you were not married to your spouse. Our colleague, psychologist and relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman, once observed that it takes couples an average of six years1 of unhappiness before […]
My Husband Treats Me Like I Don’t Matter: How to Rebuild Love and Respect in Your Marriage
Few things hurt more than feeling invisible to the person who once made you feel seen.When your husband dismisses your opinions, ignores your needs, or treats you like you don’t matter, it’s natural to feel rejected, angry, and deeply lonely. But before you give up or spiral into hopelessness, know this: there are ways to […]
A Financial Inventory for Spouses: Money Questions for Couples (Without the Pressure)
As a licensed couples therapist (Imago-informed, no-blame/no-shame), I see it every week: money isn’t just math—it’s meaning (safety, fairness, freedom, identity). That’s why money talks can feel so charged. The goal here is not to give you a rigid plan; it’s to open a safer, deeper conversation, and—when trust has been nicked by financial infidelity—to […]
Is Social Media Harming Your Relationship? A Therapist’s Guide to Spotting the Signs
Social media is one of the biggest hidden stressors in modern relationships. Many couples tell me, “My spouse is always on their phone,” “We don’t talk anymore,” or “Instagram is ruining my marriage.” And they’re not wrong to be concerned. According to the Pew Research Center, 51% of people say their partner is distracted by […]
What Neurotypical Couples Can Learn from Neurodiverse Relationships
Why Neurodiverse Couples Have So Much to Teach the Rest of Us Couples where one or both partners are neurodivergent—such as autistic, ADHD, or otherwise wired differently—face unique challenges in relationships. But they also develop powerful skills that many neurotypical couples struggle to achieve: self-awareness, clear communication, and empathy through difference. When neurodiverse couples commit […]
What is a Couples Counseling Vacation?
If you have a goal to travel more, consider adding a couples retreat to your itinerary! In this article, let’s talk about what couples counseling vacations are, what to look for in a couples retreat, and what the benefits are of going on this type of adventure with your spouse. What Are Couples Counseling Vacations? […]
Why It’s Important to Go On Dates with Your Spouse & 3 Ideas to Try
Remember the excitement you felt when you were first dating your spouse? The amount of care you put into your outfit and your appearance? The anticipation of seeing each other and the strong desire to reach out and connect again? Going on dates isn’t something only new couples can enjoy. In fact, even though there […]
Is My Spouse a Narcissist? How to Tell — and What to Do Next
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is my spouse a narcissist?” you’re not alone.The term narcissism has become one of the most common labels in modern relationships — often used to describe partners who seem selfish, emotionally unavailable, or unwilling to change. But here’s the truth: not every difficult partner is a narcissist, and not everyone who’s […]
Best Gifts to Give Your Spouse According to Their Love Language
By Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, and co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project. For more than 20 years, he’s helped couples transform hopeless marriages into lasting connection through structured dialogue and emotional safety. Why Love-Language-Based Gifts Matter Couples often ask, “What’s the best gift for my spouse?” or […]
What Surrendering in Marriage Really Means (and Why It Builds Trust)
When people hear the word surrender in marriage, it can feel loaded. Many immediately think: Becoming a doormat Losing independence Being taken advantage of But true surrender is not weakness. In fact, it requires self-respect, emotional intelligence, and inner strength. Healthy surrender in marriage is about letting go of unnecessary control, staying open-hearted, and building […]
3 Boundaries You Should Never Cross in Marriage (If You Want Lasting Love)
Boundaries in marriage are often misunderstood. Many think they create distance, but the truth is, healthy boundaries create safety, trust, and respect—the very foundation of intimacy. Think of boundaries as guardrails that protect your relationship from resentment, burnout, and emotional flooding. When couples blur or ignore them, trust erodes. When couples honor them, connection deepens. […]
How to Stay Connected as a Couple During the Holidays
Key takeaways Holiday stress and marriage often collide; short, scheduled holiday couple check-ins keep you aligned. Create small holiday traditions for couples to anchor connection amid busy calendars. Learn how to say no during the holidays so you can say “yes” to each other. Volunteering as a couple builds shared purpose and boosts well-being. 1) […]
How a Marriage Gratitude Journal Can Strengthen Your Relationship
Why Gratitude Can Transform Your Marriage No one plans to take their spouse for granted—but life’s demands can make it easy to forget what we love and appreciate most about each other. Over time, the daily routine can slowly dull our sense of wonder and warmth toward our partner. But one of the simplest and […]