Anxiety is ruining my marriage, Help!
By Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Founder of The Marriage Restoration Project When Anxiety Becomes the Third Partner in Your Marriage If you’ve caught yourself thinking, “My anxiety is ruining my marriage” or “My spouse’s anxiety is destroying our relationship,” you’re not alone. With the world constantly on edge — news […]
Rebuild Trust in a Marriage: in the case of prior love relationships.
Previous love relationships can sometimes threaten the trust between a husband and wife. If talks about your spouse’s prior love relationships and previous boyfriends or girlfriends have contributed to a break down in trust between the two of you, this post will help you learn how to rebuild trust in a marriage. More inspiration on […]
“The Dangers of Diagnosis” II- When Spouse has a Personality Disorder
The first article I wrote on the Dangers of Diagnosis brought out strong responses. Some agreed wholeheartedly, others felt I minimized the pain of living with a spouse who struggles with serious mental illness. My goal here is to clarify, especially when the issue involves a suspected personality disorder. What to do when you think […]
My Spouse Has a Personality Disorder: The Real Danger of Diagnosis
How labels can harm marriages—and what actually helps couples heal, reconnect, and communicate. When a Diagnosis Feels Like a Verdict Discovering—or suspecting—that your spouse has a personality disorder can feel overwhelming. Many partners privately wonder: Did I choose the wrong person? Will we ever be happy? Is the diagnosis the real problem—or is something deeper […]
Spouse Has ADHD? The Link Between ADHD & Anger in Marriage (and What Helps)
Key Takeaways Anger isn’t a diagnostic symptom of ADHD—but certain anger patterns are common in ADHD-impacted relationships. Two frequent patterns: chronic resentment (often in the non-ADHD partner) and sudden angry outbursts (sometimes in the ADHD partner). Trauma and nervous-system stress can mimic or amplify ADHD-like behaviors; evaluation should consider both. Couples improve fastest when they […]
How to Deal With a Needy Spouse — And Decide If the Marriage Can Be Saved
Are you considering divorce because your spouse’s emotional needs feel overwhelming? You may relate to the following question from a reader we addressed —a spouse contemplating divorce due to exhaustion from dealing with a “needy” partner. Reader Question: “My wife over the last week has told me she wants a divorce but not until after […]
Fear of drifting apart in a relationship
Are you afraid that you’ve been drifting apart in a relationship? Staying happily married requires active participation in growing the relationship. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to drift apart from your spouse. More inspiration for how to prevent drifting apart in a marriage: 3 ways to infuse love into a relationship What to do […]
How to be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage: Turn it Around
Are you in an unhappy marriage? Like you are doing all the work in your relationship? Are you at your wits’ end? It is extremely disappointing and exasperating if your spouse has “checked out” of his/her role in your relationship. You are probably feeling lonely and hopeless that your marriage will ever be what you […]
Affordable Marriage Counseling: How to Get Quality Help Without Sacrificing Results
When you’re searching for affordable marriage counseling, one thing becomes clear quickly: You get what you pay for. The cheapest marriage counselor usually isn’t the most effective. But the good news is this: You can access high-quality, impactful marriage counseling while still being mindful of your budget — if you know what options to look […]
Part II of How to Respond to Your Angry Spouse
Two weeks ago I wrote about how to respond to your angry spouse. Readers had a lot to say about it. Below are some of the comments/questions and my response. Look forward to your continued feedback!
Online Marriage Help: Does It Work? Or Can It Make Things Worse?
How to choose online marriage counseling that actually helps—based on research, clinical experience, and our proprietary 5-Step Marriage Restoration Method. Why Online Marriage Help Matters Now More Than Ever For couples in crisis, the decision to seek help is already one of the hardest steps.But choosing the right kind of help is even harder. Many […]
Active Listening vs. Defensive Listening: How to Really Hear Your Spouse
When your spouse says something that stings, do you find yourself reacting, defending, or shutting down? You might think you’re a good listener, but the real difference between couples who stay connected and couples who drift apart often comes down to how they listen. On relationship forums like Reddit, many partners ask: “How do I […]
Organize together and create a Romantic Master Bedroom
Is a Romantic Master Bedroom the Secret to a Happy Marriage? More inspiration on organizing together: Free online marriage counseling on household management Organizing can save your marriage
Household Management Together: Turning Chores Into Connection
For most couples, managing a home isn’t just about dishes, laundry, or bills—it’s about teamwork, communication, and emotional connection.When household management becomes one-sided or chaotic, it can quietly erode a relationship. But when you approach it together, it becomes an act of partnership—and yes, even love. Below are some simple ways to get organized together […]
I’m Married to a Narcissistic Husband. Please Help!
If you’ve ever thought, “I think my husband might be a narcissist,” you’re not alone. Many people feel stuck in painful relationship patterns where one partner blames, criticizes, or shows little empathy. A recent client wrote: “My husband hasn’t been diagnosed—he thinks all psychology is rubbish. He blames me for our marital problems. When I […]
Marriage Issues: Stopping Emotional Abuse in Marriage
What is emotional abuse in marriage? It can be hard to quantify since it differs greatly from physical abuse but can be the slippery slope that leads to it. Emotional Abuse: What You Should Know Emotional abuse is a topic we get questions about often. So many relationships are suffering from emotional abuse. Stopping emotional […]
Marriage Advice: 6 Ways to Stay in Love Forever and Start Getting the Love You Want
Relationships don’t coast by on autopilot. They need active effort to keep the love alive. Here is a sampling of marriage advice to stay in love forever:
Is Divorce Worth It? Falling Out of Love? Avoid Divorce with a Marriage Retreat
The Real Question: Is Divorce Worth It? If you’re asking yourself whether divorce is worth it, you’re likely exhausted — emotionally, mentally, maybe even physically. The fighting, the loneliness, the constant disappointment — it’s enough to make anyone want out. But before you make a permanent decision about a temporary feeling, it’s important to look […]
Should I Get a Divorce? Relationship Quiz to Find Clarity Before Making a Big Decision
When your marriage feels strained, disconnected, or overwhelming, it’s normal to wonder: “Should I get a divorce… or is there still hope for us?” You’re not alone. Many couples quietly agonize over this question for months (or years) before taking action. But divorce is a life-altering decision, and before you make it, it’s important to […]
How to Spice Up Your Marriage (The Secret Most Couples Miss)
Most people think couples look for ways to “spice things up” only after many years together. But the truth is, even couples married months often ask: “How do I bring back the spark?” “How do I feel closer to my spouse again?” “How can we reconnect emotionally and physically?” Why?Because every couple craves connection.Connection is […]