Staying present in a relationship
If you’re looking for information on staying present in a relationship then likely you know that it is all too easy to allow the pressures of daily life to distract you from the one who “should” mean the most to you. More inspiration about staying present with your partner: The easiest way to fall back […]
Should We Try Intensive Marriage Therapy? How to Know If It’s Time to Act
How do you know when it’s time to seek intensive marriage therapy—or even better, attend an intensive marriage counseling retreat? For many couples, the warning signs are there long before things reach a breaking point. If you answer “yes” to any of the questions below, you may be an excellent candidate for an intensive couples […]
New Year Resolution for Married Couples: How to Improve your Marriage
How to improve your marriage. What “should” your new year resolution be for the upcoming year? If you do this 1 thing, so much more will follow.
How to Stop Fight-or-Flight Reactions in Your Marriage
When you feel stressed, it’s hard to make conscious and informed decisions. Instead, your brain shifts into fight-or-flight mode—reacting automatically rather than thoughtfully. In relationships, these reactions often look like: Yelling Shutting down Silent treatment Walking out The problem? Your spouse has their own fight/flight response, which often gets triggered by yours. This creates a […]
[Podcast Episode 011] When your siblings don’t like your spouse.
Are siblings meddling in your marriage? Do you dislike your brother or sister in law? Is your sister or your spouse’s sister trying to break up your relationship? What to do when your siblings don’t like your spouse? If someone in your family is trying to break up your marriage, don’t let them. They need […]
Are you under Valentine’s Day Pressure?
How to stop letting comparison and expectation ruin your connection by Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, and co-host of Can This Marriage Be Saved?. For over two decades, he’s helped couples replace frustration with understanding through structured communication tools and emotional safety. When Love Turns into Obligation […]
The ONE Question that You Need to Ask Yourself Before Breaking Up
What is the 1 question to ask yourself before breaking up is: What do you need to be happy and what can you do to bring that into your relationship? Ask yourself, “When did you start becoming unhappy in this relationship? What changed?” Is it a particular scenario or event that occurred or a situation […]
Marriage Quiz – Which Couple Are You?
Take this marriage quiz to find out what kind of couple you are!
How do you see your partner? Learned from Imago marriage retreats.
Imago therapy believes that you picked your spouse unconsciously for a reason. All kinds of studies went into researching this axiom and is laid out in Dr. Harville Hendrix’s noted book, Getting the Love You Want. One of the results of us falling in love with someone that we picked unconsciously is the way we […]
Did you marry your “Imago”? Principles of Imago therapy.
Imago therapy is fascinating in that it scientifically can explain why we are fighting so much with our partner! Keep reading to understand why your spouse is pushing your buttons and how your conflict is actually a MAJOR opportunity for you. “Did I marry the right person?” While you may expect this question to be […]
Before You Start Marriage Counseling: 6 Key Insights That Could Make or Break Your Results
By Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, and co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project. For more than 20 years, he’s helped couples transform hopeless marriages into lasting connection through structured dialogue and emotional safety. Marriage counseling can be a powerful intervention for couples in crisis — but not […]
How to find a good marriage counselor
Just about anyone who has a degree in counseling can advertise that they do couples work. The question is, can they help your relationship? Learn what to look for in your marriage therapist, and how to find a good relationship counselor. If you’re looking for information on how to find the right marriage counselor, here’s […]
5 Ways Intensive Couples Counseling Retreats Work (and When to Choose One Over Weekly Therapy)
Key Takeaways Why intensives work: They compress months of work into a focused window, reduce “start/stop” drift, and build momentum on the hardest issues. When intensives beat weekly: Affair fallout, constant blowups, or feeling stuck after months of sessions—situations where you need containment + speed. (Weekly still works well for steady skill-building.) If one spouse […]
Are you looking for the Best Couples Retreat?
No doubt, when you do a search for the best couples retreat, you are looking for a marriage counseling retreat that will actually work! Yes, a beautiful island or locale would be wonderful to visit with your spouse, but if you are fighting all the way there and back, then really it’s not worth the […]
The Imago dialogue script
The Imago Dialogue Script is an active exchange between a Sender (the speaking partner) and a Receiver (the listening partner). Breaking the Imago Intentional Dialogue Down Into Parts. The Sender speaks his or her message as simply and concisely as possible; that is, the Sender shares thoughts and feelings succinctly, so the receiver can hear […]
Effective Communication in Marriage: Are You Really Listening to Your Partner?
When I first met my wife, I thought I was a great listener—and so did she. Friends would come to me with their problems, and I’d patiently hear them out. But after we got married, I realized something humbling: I wasn’t listening nearly as well as I thought. That’s when I learned what couples on […]
You Just Got Caught on Ashley Madison. Now what? Getting over an affair.
Hackers broke into a database of 37 million users for the cheating site Ashley Madison, whose motto is, “Life is Short, Have an Affair”. Your spouse is going to need some help healing and help with getting over an affair.
Is a friend meddling in your marriage?
Is a Friend Meddling in Your Marriage? How to Protect Your Relationship It’s one thing to lean on friends for support. It’s another when a friend becomes so involved in your marriage that they start to influence how you or your spouse see each other. A meddling friend—even with “good intentions”—can quietly undermine your bond […]