Why Do Marriages Fail? And How to Break Free From a Marriage Rut
Many couples ask: “Why do most marriages fail?” and “Why do some couples stay stuck while others manage to rebuild?” The truth is, marriages rarely collapse overnight. They decline slowly — through unresolved conflict, loss of connection, and unhealthy patterns that build over time. As a licensed therapist who has worked with hundreds of couples […]
How to save a marriage even if you’ve fallen out of love.
Are you trying to figure out how to save your marriage but feel that the love in your relationship has diminished? Couples often come into my office with a heart of stone. While at one time they did feel love for their spouse, that feeling has dulled over the years, usually after experiencing pain, frustration, […]
What do you do if your husband does not want to talk?
What do you do if your husband is willing to “work” on the relationship but only on his terms? What do you do if you want to discuss past hurts and get an apology while he just wants to move forward? He is too tired when he comes home and your husband does not want […]
Structured Family Therapy
We have found that family therapy is an effective way of healing old wounds, opening communication, and reuniting family members. Whether it’s an adult parent and child, in-laws, or siblings, we have been able to help these family members reconnect after years of misunderstandings and estrangement- through structured family therapy. More inspiration on family therapy: […]
Couples Therapy Exercises Based on Imago Therapy
Do you ever feel like every serious conversation with your spouse turns into a fight—or worse, silence? You’re not alone. Many couples want to talk about important issues but don’t know how to start without triggering defensiveness, blame, or emotional shutdown. The good news: conflict doesn’t have to mean catastrophe. In healthy relationships, it’s a […]
My Marriage is Falling Apart
There’s nothing that feels worse than the feeling in the pit of your stomach when you realize, “my marriage is falling apart”. When you realize that your marriage is falling apart you want something that is going to work and going to work now. More inspiration for you when you are worried about a marriage […]
Sex Education for Married Couples: How to Keep the Spark Alive
Many couples quietly wonder: “Is it normal for desire to fade after marriage?” or “How do we keep intimacy alive after years together?” These questions are so common that searches like sex education for married couples and how to keep the spark alive in marriage appear in forums every day. The truth? Desire naturally ebbs […]
How to save a marriage with a Relationship Detox
Every marriage goes through rough patches, but when constant criticism, blame, or emotional exhaustion take over, you may feel like your relationship has become toxic. Before you give up, consider this: you might not need a divorce—you might need a relationship detox. A relationship detox helps couples remove toxic communication patterns, reestablish emotional safety, and […]
What do happy couples do differently?
What do happy couples do differently? More inspiration about happy couples and what happy couples do differently: Want to be one of the lucky ones? What it takes to have a successful marriage How to be happy in an unhappy marriage Is my spouse unhappy?
What It Really Takes to Have a Happy Marriage (Not Just “Staying Together”)
If you’ve ever browsed Reddit’s r/relationships or r/marriage, you know the questions: “Why are some couples still so in love after 20 years?” “Can my marriage survive an affair?” “Why do I feel unhappy even though nothing is ‘wrong’?” These aren’t just internet debates—they’re real struggles couples face every day. And the truth is, happy […]
How to Be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage: Can You Really Rebuild Connection?
If you’ve found yourself thinking, “I love my spouse, but I’m not happy anymore”—you’re not alone. Thousands of people ask versions of this very question every day on forums like Reddit, Quora, and relationship advice blogs. The good news? Feeling unhappy in marriage doesn’t automatically mean it’s over. With the right tools, many couples move […]
[Podcast Episode 006] Validation Techniques for Couples
Feeling Heard & Validated: Why It Matters in Marriage In a recent podcast conversation, Rivka shared a moment that may hit home for many couples: she was left feeling unheard and invalidated by an acquaintance. It raised an important question — do you feel truly heard and validated by your spouse? Below, we explore why […]
[Relationship Help Podcast Episode 007] How we create our worst nightmare: My childhood is affecting my relationship!
When we get married, according to Imago therapy (the couples work that we practice exclusively), we are driven automatically to recreate our childhoods. What? How do we do this and why is this such an amazing opportunity for relationship help? Help for when “My childhood is affecting my relationship!” More inspiration on Imago therapy and […]
Being Married Is Good for Your Health! Science Explains Why
By Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, and co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project. For more than 20 years, he’s helped couples transform hopeless marriages into lasting connection through structured dialogue and emotional safety. Can marriage really make you healthier? Research says yes. From reduced risk of alcoholism […]
What to do if you’re in an abusive relationship
No form of abuse is ever acceptable. Whether it is physical, verbal, or emotional, abuse damages trust, erodes safety, and prevents a healthy relationship from growing. While some unhealthy patterns can be addressed in therapy, if you are in physical danger, your first priority is to get safe. Call 911 (in the U.S.), reach out […]
Protecting Your Children’s Stability While Deciding the Future of Your Marriage
When your marriage is in a season of uncertainty, one of the hardest questions to face is: How will this affect the kids? You may be weighing whether to stay together, take a break, or separate—and in the middle of that emotional storm, your children still need stability, security, and love. The good news is […]
How to Communicate Better at Work with Relationship Intelligence
Most people spend more waking hours with their coworkers than with their own families. That means the way you communicate at work doesn’t just influence projects and deadlines—it shapes your company’s culture, productivity, and even profitability. Relationship Intelligence (RQ) is the ability to understand, manage, and repair relationships under stress. While IQ and EQ are […]
How to fix my marriage by myself: Improve your marriage when your spouse is not interested
Key Takeaways You can improve your marriage when your spouse is not interested by changing your approach—lowering defensiveness, raising safety, and modeling new patterns. Start with self-change (calm curiosity instead of criticism), then consistent appreciation, real listening, and daily acts of care. Use scripts and micro-habits to avoid overwhelm; small, repeated behaviors shift the emotional […]
Interview with Laura Doyle, Author of “First Kill All The Marriage Counselors”
Have you heard of the book, First Kill All the Marriage Counselors? We have, and we interviewed the author for our podcast, “Can this Marriage be Saved”. It’s a great interview and we wanted to share it with you by way of audio recording and written transcript below. Laura Doyle’s wisdom for women is bold, […]
Change Your Thoughts About Your Marriage: How to Stop Overthinking and Reconnect
A reader once sent me this quote: “I’m glad that what’s going on in my head isn’t happening in my life.” It struck me because so many of us — especially when we feel insecure in our marriage — create stories in our head that aren’t based on reality. We assume the worst, replay imagined […]