PTSD in Marriage and how to help your spouse
The power of using words to process our pain and can be therapeutic for those experiencing post-traumatic stress. Holocaust survivors who did not talk about their experience found themselves suffering more than those that were able to verbalize what they went through. This point resonated with me strongly as I have witnessed the therapeutic benefit […]
How Self-Growth Can Wreck a Marriage: I feel more enlightened than my spouse
There is an unprecedented focus on self-growth in our society. While becoming a more conscious individual would appear to be praiseworthy, it’s not always the case, especially in a marriage. When spouses grow separately they often grow apart. If you find yourself saying, “I feel more enlightened than my spouse”, you need to tread very […]
How to Fix a Relationship in Five Steps
If your relationship is in crisis, the task of learning how to fix a relationship may appear daunting. In my experience of working with countless couples on the verge of relationship disaster, I have identified five proven steps to turn things around. How to fix a relationship in 5 steps. 1) Commit. While it may […]
What to do when you’re experiencing inlaw problems in marriage.
Between vacations and holidays, there may be more family time than you can handle. Along with the family time can come conflict. Whether you and your spouse disagree as to how to deal with the in-laws and the issues in marriage that can arise due to a meddling mother in law or other boundaries related […]
Marriage After Retirement: How to Adjust to Retirement in Marriage Without Losing Your Relationship
You’ve dreamed for years of finally retiring and enjoying the rest of your life with your spouse. But many couples are surprised by the friction that retirement introduces into their marriage. Would you believe that couples who have “made it” thirty or forty-plus years still need to work on their relationship after retirement? Research shows […]
Overcoming Infidelity: How to Rebuild Trust and Repair Your Relationship After Cheating
Infidelity can feel like a bomb dropped on your relationship—shattering trust, intimacy, and the very foundation you once stood on. If you’re reading this, you’re likely feeling lost, heartbroken, and unsure if healing is even possible. Here’s the truth:Many couples do survive infidelity. Some even come out stronger—more honest, connected, and emotionally secure than ever […]
Married but Living Apart: Is It Healthy or Just a Breakup in Disguise?
The idea of being married but living apart is gaining traction. Major publications, including The New York Times, have spotlighted couples who choose to maintain separate homes while staying in committed relationships . On the surface, this arrangement can sound appealing—less friction, fewer arguments over chores, and a chance to keep things “sizzly” without the […]
I I Love Him, But I’m Not Happy Anymore. What Now?
You love your husband. You’re still committed. But deep down… you’re not happy. This emotional tug-of-war is one of the most painful and confusing places to be in a marriage. You might lie awake at night wondering: Why am I so unhappy if I still love him? Should I stay and hope things get better? […]
Parenting on the Same Page: Why Being a Good Parent Isn’t Enough.
Is your parenting on the same page as your spouse’s parenting? You’re passionate about raising your children in the best possible way and parenting on the same page. You’ve attended parenting classes, read parenting tips, and have been conscientious about being a good mom or dad. There’s one key ingredient that you might have forgotten, […]
A Popular Blogger writes a review of our Marriage help program.
We wanted to share a review that a popular blogger wrote after reading and delving into our Total Marriage Transformation video course. If you’re not familiar with our program, it’s essentially a video guided marriage counseling at home program. We thank Heather, over at MommysFavoriteThings.com for writing her review!
My wife has BPD. What to do if you think your spouse has a personality disorder?
It is very frightening to think that something could be wrong with your spouse, mentally. Especially if you’ve described his/her behavior to others and they’ve said that it sounds like your spouse has a personality disorder. We’d like to provide you with some resources to let you see how it is still possible to work […]
“How My Therapist Destroyed My Marriage”- Has this happened to you?
“How My Therapist Destroyed My Marriage” is the story of too many people’s experiences yet most people are unaware of how common it is. Have you ever wondered what prompts couples to give up on their marriage? While there are certain events that can push a marriage over the edge, many couples are successfully able […]
Marriage counseling or Individual counseling for an unhappy marriage?
Marriage counseling or individual counseling? People often wonder if they should start seeing a therapist for their own “stuff” or if it would be more beneficial to attend marriage counseling together. This is a very important question. Question: Should I get a divorce or stay married? I’ve gone from definite divorce to possible divorce. My […]
Is Name Calling Verbal Abuse? What is considered verbal abuse?
It’s a question many spouses ask when conflict in marriage escalates: “Is name-calling abuse, or just fighting?” The truth is, name-calling is a form of verbal abuse—and over time, it can erode trust, safety, and self-worth in a marriage. Verbal abuse often starts small: a sarcastic comment, a put-down, or an insult “said in anger.” […]
Is my wife cheating? I need marriage advice.
You’re wondering, “Is my wife cheating?” Our marriage advice to you is to share your feelings with her in a safe and connected way. We’ll give you more details on how to do just that. More marriage advice for you in this time of doubt: Communication or provocation? Make your communication problems disappear. How to […]
How My Therapist Destroyed My Marriage Part II
How my Therapist Destroyed my Marriage Part 2 A previous article I wrote entitled, “How My Therapist Destroyed My Marriage”– provoked a few strong responses from fellow mental health professionals. For those that think I am discouraging individual therapy, know this. I do not believe all individual therapy is harmful for a marriage. The problem […]
Enjoying Thanksgiving dinner with your extended family
There’s so much anxiety that people feel before spending time together with extended family and with in-laws. There’s a real reason for that and often it’s due to the fact that you feel underminded by your extended family. Here’s how to enjoy Thanksgiving dinner with your extended family. More inspiration for how to deal with […]
Love again- 3 ways to infuse love into your relationship
When you are going through a rough patch in your marriage, it’s hard to believe that you’ll ever love again. If you follow the following relationship advice, you will be well equipped to loving and healing together again. More inspiration on how to love again: 6 ways to stay in love forever and start getting […]
Online Marriage Course: The 5 Step Plan to a Happy Marriage
If you’re a DIY type of person—or you’re on a budget and can’t commit to in-person marriage counseling—an online marriage course might be the perfect solution. That’s exactly why we created The 5 Step Plan to a Happy Marriage: a self-paced course that teaches you the essential steps to repair your relationship and build lasting […]
What the Bible Says About Marriage—and How It Can Transform Your Relationship
If you hold traditional values and want marriage counseling that aligns with your faith, you may wonder: What does the Bible actually say about marriage—and how should that shape counseling? Though I am an Orthodox Rabbi, my therapy practice is non-denominational. Sometimes couples who are seeking Christian marriage counseling or Bible-based therapy ask me to share […]