[Podcast Episode 011] When your siblings don’t like your spouse.
Are siblings meddling in your marriage? Do you dislike your brother or sister in law? Is your sister or your spouse’s sister trying to break up your relationship? What to do when your siblings don’t like your spouse? If someone in your family is trying to break up your marriage, don’t let them. They need […]
How to Stop Fight-or-Flight Reactions in Your Marriage
When you feel stressed, it’s hard to make conscious and informed decisions. Instead, your brain shifts into fight-or-flight mode—reacting automatically rather than thoughtfully. In relationships, these reactions often look like: Yelling Shutting down Silent treatment Walking out The problem? Your spouse has their own fight/flight response, which often gets triggered by yours. This creates a […]
Marriage Quiz – Which Couple Are You?
Take this marriage quiz to find out what kind of couple you are!
The ONE Question that You Need to Ask Yourself Before Breaking Up
What is the 1 question to ask yourself before breaking up is: What do you need to be happy and what can you do to bring that into your relationship? Ask yourself, “When did you start becoming unhappy in this relationship? What changed?” Is it a particular scenario or event that occurred or a situation […]
Are you under Valentine’s Day Pressure?
How to stop letting comparison and expectation ruin your connection by Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, and co-host of Can This Marriage Be Saved?. For over two decades, he’s helped couples replace frustration with understanding through structured communication tools and emotional safety. When Love Turns into Obligation […]
How do you see your partner? Learned from Imago marriage retreats.
Imago therapy believes that you picked your spouse unconsciously for a reason. All kinds of studies went into researching this axiom and is laid out in Dr. Harville Hendrix’s noted book, Getting the Love You Want. One of the results of us falling in love with someone that we picked unconsciously is the way we […]
How to find a good marriage counselor
Just about anyone who has a degree in counseling can advertise that they do couples work. The question is, can they help your relationship? Learn what to look for in your marriage therapist, and how to find a good relationship counselor. If you’re looking for information on how to find the right marriage counselor, here’s […]
Before You Start Marriage Counseling: 6 Key Insights That Could Make or Break Your Results
By Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, and co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project. For more than 20 years, he’s helped couples transform hopeless marriages into lasting connection through structured dialogue and emotional safety. Marriage counseling can be a powerful intervention for couples in crisis — but not […]
Did you marry your “Imago”? Principles of Imago therapy.
Imago therapy is fascinating in that it scientifically can explain why we are fighting so much with our partner! Keep reading to understand why your spouse is pushing your buttons and how your conflict is actually a MAJOR opportunity for you. “Did I marry the right person?” While you may expect this question to be […]
Are you looking for the Best Couples Retreat?
No doubt, when you do a search for the best couples retreat, you are looking for a marriage counseling retreat that will actually work! Yes, a beautiful island or locale would be wonderful to visit with your spouse, but if you are fighting all the way there and back, then really it’s not worth the […]
5 Ways Intensive Couples Counseling Retreats Work (and When to Choose One Over Weekly Therapy)
Key Takeaways Why intensives work: They compress months of work into a focused window, reduce “start/stop” drift, and build momentum on the hardest issues. When intensives beat weekly: Affair fallout, constant blowups, or feeling stuck after months of sessions—situations where you need containment + speed. (Weekly still works well for steady skill-building.) If one spouse […]
The Imago dialogue script
The Imago Dialogue Script is an active exchange between a Sender (the speaking partner) and a Receiver (the listening partner). Breaking the Imago Intentional Dialogue Down Into Parts. The Sender speaks his or her message as simply and concisely as possible; that is, the Sender shares thoughts and feelings succinctly, so the receiver can hear […]
When Siblings Meddle in Your Marriage: What to Do
Key Takeaways Family interference — especially siblings meddling in your marriage — can create conflict and emotional distance between spouses. Often, siblings don’t understand the deeper reasons behind your partner choice. Couples who set healthy boundaries with siblings and in-laws protect their marriage from outside influence. Energy belongs in your own relationship, not in trying […]
Effective Communication in Marriage: Are You Really Listening to Your Partner?
When I first met my wife, I thought I was a great listener—and so did she. Friends would come to me with their problems, and I’d patiently hear them out. But after we got married, I realized something humbling: I wasn’t listening nearly as well as I thought. That’s when I learned what couples on […]
You Just Got Caught on Ashley Madison. Now what? Getting over an affair.
Hackers broke into a database of 37 million users for the cheating site Ashley Madison, whose motto is, “Life is Short, Have an Affair”. Your spouse is going to need some help healing and help with getting over an affair.
Is a friend meddling in your marriage?
Is a Friend Meddling in Your Marriage? How to Protect Your Relationship It’s one thing to lean on friends for support. It’s another when a friend becomes so involved in your marriage that they start to influence how you or your spouse see each other. A meddling friend—even with “good intentions”—can quietly undermine your bond […]
Married to a Narcissist: What Can You Do Besides Leave and Still Lead a Happy Life?
by Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, MS, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor; Certified Imago Relationship Therapist & Workshop Presenter Married to a narcissist and wondering what to do besides leave? In this episode we share safety-first tools—Dialogue, mirroring, and warm-firm boundaries—to lower reactivity and grow empathy without sacrificing yourself. If you’re worried your spouse is a […]
How Far Would You Go to Prevent Divorce?
In this powerful episode, we dive into what it really means to fight for your relationship—especially when you’re facing a marriage crisis. Whether you’re on the verge of separation, trying to prevent divorce, or searching for a way to reconnect after years of disconnection, this conversation will open your eyes to the possibilities of healing. […]
Are You Re-Creating Your Childhood in Your Marriage? Here’s How to Recognise and Change the Pattern.
by Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed clinical professional counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist Why Your Marriage Feels Like Childhood All Over Again If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I keep picking partners like my parent?” or “Why does my spouse trigger me the same way my mom or dad used to?” — you’re asking […]
Marriage Counselor Fears For His Life! An Interview with Laura Doyle, New York Times Bestselling Author of First Kill All The Marriage Counselors.
In our interview with Laura Doyle, author of First Kill All of the Marriage Counselors, we learn more about how she coaches women (ONLY!) to take ownership for their role in the marriage and how they can take it into their own hands to turn a failing marriage around…without the participation of her husband! Podcast: […]