How to save a marriage even if you’ve fallen out of love.
Are you trying to figure out how to save your marriage but feel that the love in your relationship has diminished? Couples often come into my office with a heart of stone. While at one time they did feel love for their spouse, that feeling has dulled over the years, usually after experiencing pain, frustration, […]
Why Do Marriages Fail? And How to Break Free From a Marriage Rut
Many couples ask: “Why do most marriages fail?” and “Why do some couples stay stuck while others manage to rebuild?” The truth is, marriages rarely collapse overnight. They decline slowly — through unresolved conflict, loss of connection, and unhealthy patterns that build over time. As a licensed therapist who has worked with hundreds of couples […]
Have you heard about Rage Rooms? For those married to an angry spouse!
Have you heard about rage rooms where you can go and find a location near you to essentially physically “act out” your stress, anger, and anxiety? Is that beneficial for you if you’re married to an angry spouse?
Things to Say to Your Spouse Every Day to Keep the Spark Alive
When couples first fall in love, compliments and sweet words flow naturally. But over time, life gets busy, routines take over, and the spark that once felt effortless can fade. Many couples eventually ask: “How do we keep the spark alive in our marriage?” or “What should I say to my spouse every day to […]
Should you forgive someone for cheating?
Should you forgive someone for cheating? The answer really depends. If you wish to stay in relationship, then forgiveness is a must at some point. However, the process doesn’t really start until the cheater makes amends and admits wrongdoing and asks for forgiveness. More inspiration about forgiving an affair: Affair recovery-how to get over an […]
What advice do you have for couples that own businesses together?
What’s it like relationship-wise for couples that own businesses together? We work together on our marriage counseling business together and are quite familiar with both the joys and the potential tension that goes with working together and owning a business together! More resources for couples that own business together: Make communication problems disappear Are you […]
How does birth control affect relationships?
How does birth control affect relationships? In more ways than you might think! Many people mainly attribute birth control’s impact on relationships with regards to the sex drive and the physical symptoms that birth control can have. It’s important to be aware of the various methods and the effects that they can have on the […]
Will my parents’ mistakes affect me when I am older?
If you grew up watching your parents argue, split up, or avoid conflict, it’s natural to wonder:“Will my parents’ mistakes affect me when I’m older?” The short answer: yes, those early experiences shape you—but they don’t have to define you. Adult children of divorce, neglect, or high-conflict homes often unconsciously repeat patterns in their marriages. […]
[Podcast Episode 006] Validation Techniques for Couples
Feeling Heard & Validated: Why It Matters in Marriage In a recent podcast conversation, Rivka shared a moment that may hit home for many couples: she was left feeling unheard and invalidated by an acquaintance. It raised an important question — do you feel truly heard and validated by your spouse? Below, we explore why […]
How to Be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage: Can You Really Rebuild Connection?
If you’ve found yourself thinking, “I love my spouse, but I’m not happy anymore”—you’re not alone. Thousands of people ask versions of this very question every day on forums like Reddit, Quora, and relationship advice blogs. The good news? Feeling unhappy in marriage doesn’t automatically mean it’s over. With the right tools, many couples move […]
What It Really Takes to Have a Happy Marriage (Not Just “Staying Together”)
If you’ve ever browsed Reddit’s r/relationships or r/marriage, you know the questions: “Why are some couples still so in love after 20 years?” “Can my marriage survive an affair?” “Why do I feel unhappy even though nothing is ‘wrong’?” These aren’t just internet debates—they’re real struggles couples face every day. And the truth is, happy […]
What do happy couples do differently?
What do happy couples do differently? More inspiration about happy couples and what happy couples do differently: Want to be one of the lucky ones? What it takes to have a successful marriage How to be happy in an unhappy marriage Is my spouse unhappy?
How to save a marriage with a Relationship Detox
Sometimes your relationship just gets into a really negative space and you feel like you need a relationship detox. Here’s how to save a marriage with a relationship detox! Here are 3 ways that you can start your “relationship detox” so that you can begin learning how to save a marriage. 1. Stop verbal abuse […]
Relationship Questions About Money to Answer Before You Get Married
Money is one of the top sources of conflict in marriage, right alongside communication and intimacy. Research consistently shows that financial disagreements are a leading predictor of divorce¹. That’s why it’s crucial to talk about money early in your relationship—ideally before you get married. If you’re already married, don’t worry. It’s never too late to […]
Is it possible to “declutter” a relationship using the KonMari Method for Marriage?
There’s a lot of talk about the Konmari method and how to declutter your life and home. Couples also want to know about how they can de-clutter their relationship and if such a thing exists. We think it’s possible to cut out extraneous relationship clutter and here’s how.
[Relationship Help Podcast Episode 007] Is Your Childhood Affecting Your Marriage?
Key Takeaways Marriage often brings up unfinished business from childhood — wounds, unmet needs, and family patterns. Many people unconsciously marry someone like their parents (or react strongly against them). If you didn’t pick a partner similar to your parents, you may still provoke or project old wounds onto your spouse. Recognizing how childhood trauma […]
Change Your Thoughts About Your Marriage: How to Stop Overthinking and Reconnect
A reader once sent me this quote: “I’m glad that what’s going on in my head isn’t happening in my life.” It struck me because so many of us — especially when we feel insecure in our marriage — create stories in our head that aren’t based on reality. We assume the worst, replay imagined […]
Interview with Laura Doyle, Author of “First Kill All The Marriage Counselors”
Have you heard of the book, First Kill All the Marriage Counselors? We have, and we interviewed the author for our podcast, “Can this Marriage be Saved”. It’s a great interview and we wanted to share it with you by way of audio recording and written transcript below. Laura Doyle’s wisdom for women is bold, […]
How to fix my marriage by myself: Improve your marriage when your spouse is not interested
Key Takeaways You can improve your marriage when your spouse is not interested by changing your approach—lowering defensiveness, raising safety, and modeling new patterns. Start with self-change (calm curiosity instead of criticism), then consistent appreciation, real listening, and daily acts of care. Use scripts and micro-habits to avoid overwhelm; small, repeated behaviors shift the emotional […]
How to Communicate Better at Work with Relationship Intelligence
Most people spend more waking hours with their coworkers than with their own families. That means the way you communicate at work doesn’t just influence projects and deadlines—it shapes your company’s culture, productivity, and even profitability. Relationship Intelligence (RQ) is the ability to understand, manage, and repair relationships under stress. While IQ and EQ are […]