When all your friends around you are getting divorced
In our latest podcast episode, Shlomo and Rivka talked about the phenomenon of divorce being contagious and when all your friends around you are getting divorced. More inspiration about friends and divorce: Is a friend meddling in your marriage? When all your friends around you are getting divorced Friends and Frenemies: How helps you feel […]
How to Deal With a Narcissistic Husband (Safely)—Without Diagnosing Your Spouse
Being married to someone who regularly gaslights, criticizes, stonewalls, or keeps moving the goalposts can feel devastating and isolating. Many people Google “is my husband a narcissist?”—but labels won’t keep you safe or change the cycle. What will help is understanding the patterns, knowing your options, and choosing next steps that protect your wellbeing (and […]
Taking our Own Relationship Advice! 5 Things We are Thankful for
As we mention regularly in our relationship advice, it is always good to cultivate the attitude of gratitude in your relationships. As this week is Thanksgiving for those of us in the United States, we thought we would share with you some of the things we have been grateful for recently.
Before You Give Holiday Gifts to Your Spouse, Read This
How to make gifts strengthen your marriage instead of starting an argument by Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist. Co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project, he’s helped couples worldwide repair trust and communication through practical, heart-centered tools. Why Gifts in Marriage Can Feel So Loaded Every December […]
Sex Education for Married Couples: How to Keep the Spark Alive
Many couples quietly wonder: “Is it normal for desire to fade after marriage?” or “How do we keep intimacy alive after years together?” These questions are so common that searches like sex education for married couples and how to keep the spark alive in marriage appear in forums every day. The truth? Desire naturally ebbs […]
My Marriage is Falling Apart
There’s nothing that feels worse than the feeling in the pit of your stomach when you realize, “my marriage is falling apart”. When you realize that your marriage is falling apart you want something that is going to work and going to work now. More inspiration for you when you are worried about a marriage […]
Couples Therapy Exercises Based on Imago Therapy
Do you ever feel like every serious conversation with your spouse turns into a fight—or worse, silence? You’re not alone. Many couples want to talk about important issues but don’t know how to start without triggering defensiveness, blame, or emotional shutdown. The good news: conflict doesn’t have to mean catastrophe. In healthy relationships, it’s a […]
Structured Family Therapy
We have found that family therapy is an effective way of healing old wounds, opening communication, and reuniting family members. Whether it’s an adult parent and child, in-laws, or siblings, we have been able to help these family members reconnect after years of misunderstandings and estrangement- through structured family therapy. More inspiration on family therapy: […]
What do you do if your husband does not want to talk?
What do you do if your husband is willing to “work” on the relationship but only on his terms? What do you do if you want to discuss past hurts and get an apology while he just wants to move forward? He is too tired when he comes home and your husband does not want […]
How to save a marriage even if you’ve fallen out of love.
Are you trying to figure out how to save your marriage but feel that the love in your relationship has diminished? Couples often come into my office with a heart of stone. While at one time they did feel love for their spouse, that feeling has dulled over the years, usually after experiencing pain, frustration, […]
Why Do Marriages Fail? And How to Break Free From a Marriage Rut
Many couples ask: “Why do most marriages fail?” and “Why do some couples stay stuck while others manage to rebuild?” The truth is, marriages rarely collapse overnight. They decline slowly — through unresolved conflict, loss of connection, and unhealthy patterns that build over time. As a licensed therapist who has worked with hundreds of couples […]
Have you heard about Rage Rooms? For those married to an angry spouse!
Have you heard about rage rooms where you can go and find a location near you to essentially physically “act out” your stress, anger, and anxiety? Is that beneficial for you if you’re married to an angry spouse?
Things to Say to Your Spouse Every Day to Keep the Spark Alive
When couples first fall in love, compliments and sweet words flow naturally. But over time, life gets busy, routines take over, and the spark that once felt effortless can fade. Many couples eventually ask: “How do we keep the spark alive in our marriage?” or “What should I say to my spouse every day to […]
Should you forgive someone for cheating?
Should you forgive someone for cheating? The answer really depends. If you wish to stay in relationship, then forgiveness is a must at some point. However, the process doesn’t really start until the cheater makes amends and admits wrongdoing and asks for forgiveness. More inspiration about forgiving an affair: Affair recovery-how to get over an […]
What advice do you have for couples that own businesses together?
What’s it like relationship-wise for couples that own businesses together? We work together on our marriage counseling business together and are quite familiar with both the joys and the potential tension that goes with working together and owning a business together! More resources for couples that own business together: Make communication problems disappear Are you […]
How does birth control affect relationships?
How does birth control affect relationships? In more ways than you might think! Many people mainly attribute birth control’s impact on relationships with regards to the sex drive and the physical symptoms that birth control can have. It’s important to be aware of the various methods and the effects that they can have on the […]
Will my parents’ mistakes affect me when I am older?
If you grew up watching your parents argue, split up, or avoid conflict, it’s natural to wonder:“Will my parents’ mistakes affect me when I’m older?” The short answer: yes, those early experiences shape you—but they don’t have to define you. Adult children of divorce, neglect, or high-conflict homes often unconsciously repeat patterns in their marriages. […]
[Podcast Episode 006] Validation Techniques for Couples
Feeling Heard & Validated: Why It Matters in Marriage In a recent podcast conversation, Rivka shared a moment that may hit home for many couples: she was left feeling unheard and invalidated by an acquaintance. It raised an important question — do you feel truly heard and validated by your spouse? Below, we explore why […]
How to Be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage: Can You Really Rebuild Connection?
If you’ve found yourself thinking, “I love my spouse, but I’m not happy anymore”—you’re not alone. Thousands of people ask versions of this very question every day on forums like Reddit, Quora, and relationship advice blogs. The good news? Feeling unhappy in marriage doesn’t automatically mean it’s over. With the right tools, many couples move […]
What It Really Takes to Have a Happy Marriage (Not Just “Staying Together”)
If you’ve ever browsed Reddit’s r/relationships or r/marriage, you know the questions: “Why are some couples still so in love after 20 years?” “Can my marriage survive an affair?” “Why do I feel unhappy even though nothing is ‘wrong’?” These aren’t just internet debates—they’re real struggles couples face every day. And the truth is, happy […]