Is Imago Therapy Just Communication Skills? How It Actually Heals Relationships
If you’ve heard of Imago Relationship Therapy, you may think it’s just a structured way to talk—one person speaks, the other mirrors back, and that’s it. Many people (even some therapists) dismiss it as simply a “communication technique.” But the truth is, Imago therapy goes far deeper. At its core, Imago is not a communication […]
Listen to our Imago therapy interview about relationships
The Jewish Home and Family Show on Israel National Radio (Arutz Sheva) by Leora Mandel recently invited me on an Imago therapy interview. There are two segments to the program.
Will marriage counseling help or make things worse?
You may be wondering will marriage counseling help your relationship or will marriage counseling make things worse? More inspiration on how to find the best one suited to your needs. How to find good marriage counseling? How to make sure marriage counseling will work for you. Does marriage counseling make things worse?
Marriage Counseling making things worse
Is marriage counseling making things worse for you? Usually that is due to the wrong approach to marriage counseling- where a therapist takes sides, suggests the couple separate, and makes a judgment about one of the spouses, only creating lots of doubt in the mind of the other spouse. We want to invite you to […]
Use Imago therapy to gain emotional intelligence and handle rude, hostile people.
Sometimes we see something that someone does and we literally hate them for it! Why do we react so strongly? According to Imago therapy, there is a reason and if you can become conscious as to why that person’s actions bother you SO much, you will gain a lot more emotional intelligence and become a […]
Will a Temporary Separation Help my Marriage? Not necessarily.
You’ll read below that one of the most important ways to heal and come back together after a temporary separation is to infuse your relationship with positivity and love again. We’re going to provide you with inspiration for how to do just that.
Help! I’m married to an overly critical husband.
Question: Help! I’m married to an overly critical husband! My husband is a great husband and father but he doesn’t seem to be able to tell me compliments about how I look, etc… It really bothers me. I also don’t like how he puts others down. He is always worried about what others think and […]
Whitney Houston’s Last Exit: Married to an Addict
Whitney Houston’s death is yet another tragic ending for the life of a talented performer. While the cause of death is still uncertain, her turn to drug use during her tumultuous marriage sent her on a downward spiral that destroyed her reputation and ultimately her life. What lessons can we learn from her untimely passing […]
How my shopping addiction affected my marriage
We partake in all kinds of “exits” when we feel unsafe. There are lots of reasons that we feel unsafe, and in a marriage, our spouse will often trigger us in ways that make us feel even more unsafe. A shopping addiction is one kind of “exit” that we partake in. Let’s gain a lot […]
3 Ways You Can Truly Help Save Your Friend’s Marriage
When someone you care about is going through a marriage crisis, it’s natural to want to help. But here’s the hard truth: sometimes, even with the best of intentions, friends and family can unintentionally make things worse. I’ve seen many struggling marriages unravel further because of outside involvement that—though well-meaning—ended up fueling blame and deepening […]
What should I do when my wife ignores me?
If your wife is ignoring you, it’s natural to feel confused, hurt, or even angry. That kind of disconnection can be incredibly painful—especially when you’re not sure what’s causing it. Whether she’s pulling away emotionally, avoiding physical affection, or simply seems disengaged, you’re probably wondering: Why is this happening, and what can I do about […]
Military Marriage Counseling: Marriage Problems during deployment.
Relationship Problems Facing Military Couples During Deployment and How to Overcome Them Military couples are tough. They knew the risks, and went for it. But military relationships are inevitably bound to experience problems at some point. Deployment is a common time period for marriage problems, but with a little help you can learn to manage […]
Marriage Isn’t for You: Should you stay married?
Should you stay married? Am I the only one who clicked on Seth Adam Smith’s This Recently Married Man Just Realized Marriage Isn’t for him and assumed it was about someone who decided to throw away their marriage after 18 months?
“Help! I’ve Got a Passive Aggressive Husband”
I recently received this question, “My husband is passive aggressive and I’m at my wits end! Is there anything I can do to end this behavior?” You can take measures to help curb your spouse’s behavior, and my answers are below. Keep reading in case you yourself are experiencing a similar situation. The answers will […]
How to Fix a Relationship in Five Steps
If your relationship is in crisis, the task of learning how to fix a relationship may appear daunting. In my experience of working with countless couples on the verge of relationship disaster, I have identified five proven steps to turn things around. How to fix a relationship in 5 steps. 1) Commit. While it may […]
How Self-Growth Can Wreck a Marriage: I feel more enlightened than my spouse
There is an unprecedented focus on self-growth in our society. While becoming a more conscious individual would appear to be praiseworthy, it’s not always the case, especially in a marriage. When spouses grow separately they often grow apart. If you find yourself saying, “I feel more enlightened than my spouse”, you need to tread very […]
PTSD in Marriage and how to help your spouse
The power of using words to process our pain and can be therapeutic for those experiencing post-traumatic stress. Holocaust survivors who did not talk about their experience found themselves suffering more than those that were able to verbalize what they went through. This point resonated with me strongly as I have witnessed the therapeutic benefit […]
Eating disorders in Marriage: Are you starved for love?
Have you ever found yourself staring at an ice cream sundae with the same kind of intensity as you would your true love? It’s as if that sundae has the power to comfort you in the way only your beloved could. While certainly the sugar rush and chocolate euphoria might help you feel fully alive […]
Why Some Marriage Counseling Fails—And How to Choose the Right Professional Over Well-Meaning Friends or Clergy
If you’ve ever wondered, “Is it worth getting marriage help from a professional?”, you’re not alone. Many couples hesitate—often because they’ve heard stories of therapy dragging on for years, costing thousands, and not actually helping. Here’s the truth: marriage counseling can absolutely work, but not all marriage counseling is created equal. The difference between […]
When your Spouse Wants More/Less Religion Than You- Couples with religious differences
As Judaism is our own faith, we use it here when we talk about help for couples with religious differences in marriage. The following marriage advice can be used for all religions. What if your husband told you that he did not want to be observant anymore? What if you and your wife are not […]