We coached you in the last post called How to Save a Marriage When Only One is Trying (Suggested Script I) about how to invite your unwilling spouse to begin considering attending our private marriage retreat with you.
If that strategy didn’t work for you, we’d like to give you this one which is a bit more severe.
Here’s what to say to your spouse (FOLLOW SCRIPT I FIRST AND THEN USE THIS ONE IF #1 DIDN’T WORK):
“I understand that you’re not interested in getting help on our relationship, or you’re just done (tailor this to your particular situation).
I still feel that it would be helpful for us to get clarity moving forward so that we can make a conscious choice instead of just leaving because it’s too hurtful.
It doesn’t mean we have to stay together, we can walk away without being bitter or angry with each other and with the clarity of what went wrong, as well as an understanding of what role we both played so that we don’t repeat it in future relationships.
(If you have children) Even if we end our marriage, we will always be in relationship because of the kids, and for their sake, it’s important that we learn how to work together without bitterness and resentment.
I think this program will teach us skills to get beyond some of our differences and work better together as well as learn how to communicate without hurting each other.”
Often times, couples that come in for this closure and goodbye process end up deciding to stay together because they become aware of what is going on.
The purpose of this is not to be deceptive and trick your spouse into coming, but if you have no other chance, it is your BEST OPTION and truthfully, it is beneficial, to get some closure and to work on things.
Contact us to talk more about how to broach the subject of saving your marriage by way of a marriage retreat.