We’d like to give you an opportunity to read up on some of the frequently asked questions that we receive about our marriage counseling practice. If you have a question that has not been addressed below, please don’t hesitate to contact us.
Please also read the following blog post: How to make sure marriage counseling will work for you so that you can come armed and ready for success!
Your question makes a lot of sense! While we don’t propose to be able to fix everything in two days, think of it like a game of dominoes. In this case, once you get to the root of the issue- most of the time, all of the other fights tend to dissipate. Why? Because we go right to the core of your unmet needs and address the connection (or lack thereof) between you and your partner. Once the toxic pollution in the space between you turns safe, which it does after learning tools like the Intentional Dialogue and other tools you will use right away in session, you now have the ability to address the other conflicts together as a united front, in a safe and connected way.
If you would like to call your insurance company, here is what you can ask: Ask them if they cover 90847 which is conjoint therapy and see how much they would reimburse for an out of network therapist. They usually have an allotted amount. Also, find out the amount of time they would cover. They may reimburse for a double session (90 minutes). You can also verify if they would reimburse for a therapist via telehealth who is out of state.
We no longer see couples on a per session basis because we find that the couples that are most successful in the long run undergo an intensive experience. That’s due to the 6 months worth of relationship foundation and education they get in a two day retreat instead of just an hour or two. Because couples we work with want to experience real long lasting change and a true transformation, we’ve created what we think is one of the best marriage saving programs in the world- a hybrid of 2 intensive retreat days plus 8 weekly counseling sessions for long term follow through and accountability.
After the 2 day Marriage Restoration Retreat, most couples gain new hope for their marriage and see the possibilities for coming together again even at the end of the first day.
Yes. We have found that the most effective way to heal a relationship is for both partners to be present.
If your spouse is against counseling, we can help you learn how to talk with your spouse about it in a safe way.
Religion is not incorporated in sessions unless requested by the couple. Our counseling is not faith based. With that said, we do have traditional values in promoting strong marriages and we do believe in working to keep a couple together when possible.
Skype or Zoom coaching sessions are ideal for those who are not able to travel to our Baltimore, Maryland office. Couples worldwide have taken advantage of our online marriage counseling sessions. Even those who live locally but are unable to arrange childcare, have also opted to work over Skype or Zoom. It is more convenient for them and saves travel time and costs as well.
Marriage therapy intensives are ideal for a marriage that is in dire need of a breakthrough. If you feel the need to make a decision about the future of your relationship, and you can’t afford to spend weeks or months in marriage counseling, a 2-day marriage therapy intensive may be just what you need. This is the ideal program for couples contemplating divorce.
Our success rate is 90%. We measure our marriage counseling success rate based on the number of couples that we’ve seen in our counseling practice that have met their intended goals for entering into counseling. This ranges from couples on the brink of divorce to couples that wanted to learn how to make a good marriage great.
We often work with families and their adult children. This process is extremely helpful for working out issues between parents and adult children and in-law issues.
We do not counsel children.
Yes. We work not only to heal the infidelity but explore the root causes of the relationship breakdown that led to such a rupture. Couples that end the affair and desire to save their relationship are extremely successful despite the severe breach of trust that has occurred.
While my wife and I present our material together in our Getting the Love You Want Workshops as well as in speaking engagements, she is not a licensed therapist and does not work with me in my private couples practice.
Yes, couples who have filed for divorce are able to reconcile. Even if you do not wish to reconcile, you can gain clarity about why your relationship has reached this point so that you can both make a conscious choice and be better prepared for future relationships. Finally, if you have children, it behooves you to relate to each other in a healthy way as you will continue to be in relationship as parents to your children.
We are very confident that our 2 day private intensives can save your marriage. Our approach is very successful and we would love to meet and work with you as well.
When you register for our 2-Day Private Couples Intensive, you receive a comprehensive, high-touch experience designed to restore your connection, rebuild trust, and equip you with powerful relationship tools that last long after the weekend is over.
🔹 Two Full Days of Private Therapy (12+ Hours Total)
- 6 hours each day of private, uninterrupted time with your therapist
- A structured, transformative format that allows for deep emotional processing and connection
- Breaks and integration time thoughtfully built in
🔹 Personalized Relationship Assessment
- Pre-intensive consultation to match you with the right therapist
- Review of your goals and relationship history
- Custom-tailored session plan to meet your specific needs
Powerful Therapeutic Exercises
- Guided dialogue sessions to safely unpack conflict
- Guided explorations of your relationship patterns and history
- Tools for healing resentment, improving empathy, and restoring connection
🔹 Your Relationship Roadmap
- An action plan to carry your progress forward
- Custom strategies and communication tools you can use immediately
- A printable list of post-intensive recommendations and rituals to keep the momentum going
🔹 Post-Intensive Support Options
- Access to 8 90 Minute follow-up sessions (virtual or in-person)
- On Demand Self Guided 5 Step Plan to a Happy Marriage Audio/Visual Program for home support between sessions
- Email check-ins and additional resources based on your intensive
Hesitation is completely normal—and it doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed.
Many partners feel unsure at first. They may fear being blamed, judged, or pushed to make a decision they’re not ready for. That’s why we approach things differently.
Our private retreat isn’t about digging up the past or assigning fault. It’s about creating a safe space where both of you feel seen, heard, and respected—no matter how differently you may feel about the future of your relationship.
We meet each person exactly where they are, even if one of you isn’t sure the relationship can or should be saved.
You don’t need to agree on what you want before coming. In fact, that’s what the retreat is for—to slow things down, sort through the confusion, and gain clarity together, with expert guidance and without pressure.
If your partner is unsure, consider inviting them to:
Read one of our blog posts or testimonials
Watch a short video introduction to our approach
Schedule a brief, no-pressure consultation call to ask their own questions
We’re here to support both of you, at your own pace, with compassion and clarity.
Our retreat is couples therapy—just accelerated and far more effective.
Instead of spending months in weekly sessions, we spend two full days focused entirely on you. You’ll get to the heart of the issues faster, experience real breakthroughs, and walk away with clarity and tools that actually work.
It’s deep, immersive, and designed to create lasting change—especially for couples on the brink.
Every couple is different, and while we can’t promise specific outcomes, most couples walk away with something they haven’t had in a long time: hope, clarity, and real tools to move forward.
By the end of Day 1, many couples already feel a shift—whether it’s finally being heard, feeling understood, or simply knowing there’s a path forward.
By the end of Day 2, you can typically expect:
A deeper understanding of each other’s experiences and pain points
Practical communication tools you can use right away
Clarity about what’s next—whether that’s healing together or making thoughtful decisions
A sense of relief that you finally addressed what’s been weighing you down
No matter how stuck you feel walking in, our goal is for you to leave with a renewed sense of direction and the emotional tools to handle it—together or apart—with more peace and compassion.
The first step is a conversation—with no pressure or commitment. Reach out with a call or contact form.
The investment for our private 2-day Marriage Restoration Retreat is $6,997.
We understand that’s a significant amount—and it’s also a fraction of the emotional and financial cost of staying stuck… or ending a marriage without clarity.
Just for context:
A divorce can cost between $64,715 – $146,730 – and that doesn’t include the ongoing emotional cost.
The emotional cost to you, your partner, and (if you have them) your children can be far greater—and long-lasting.
Then there’s the cost of doing nothing—the pain of walking on eggshells, the tension in your home, and the silent drift that can lead to years of regret.
Our retreat offers you the chance to pause, reconnect, and make thoughtful decisions with the guidance of a licensed therapist. Whether you walk away ready to rebuild or with clarity on next steps, you’ll have made that decision with intention—not from a place of pain, confusion, or pressure.
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