I Don’t Love My Spouse Anymore? Which of the 3 Relationship Stages are You In
The stages of a relationship are often misunderstood, and confused with what at first appears to be the end of a marriage. Find yourself saying “I don’t love my spouse anymore”? Wondering what to do if you don’t love your spouse anymore? Wondering if your marriage is over and beyond repair? These feelings are normal […]
Getting Over an Affair: Your 7-Step Emergency Guide
If you’ve just discovered your spouse had an affair, you’re likely feeling overwhelmed—hurt, betrayed, angry, confused, or even ashamed. Whether you had the affair or your partner did, you’ve landed here because you’re looking for marriage counseling specializing in affair recovery. First, know this: there is hope. Healing after infidelity is one of the hardest […]
Marriage Advice: Fact or Myth? What Couples Really Need to Know
You’ve probably heard the old sayings: “Marriage is hard.” “Never go to bed angry.” “Quality, not quantity.” But how much of this advice is true, and how much is myth? Couples often come to me confused, because popular sayings don’t always match the reality of building a thriving relationship. Let’s unpack some of the most […]
Relationship advice that I Learned from my Mother
Before you give up on your relationship…
How to borrow hope when you’ve run out of your own by Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Advanced Imago Relationship Therapist, and co-founder of The Marriage Restoration Project. For more than 20 years, he’s helped couples transform hopeless marriages into lasting connection through structured dialogue and emotional safety. When You’re Ready […]
Five Things Your Husband Wishes You Knew But Won’t Tell You
If you’ve ever wondered “Why won’t my husband open up to me?” or “How can I get my husband to talk about his feelings?”—you’re not alone. Many women search for answers when their husbands withdraw, don’t communicate, or seem emotionally distant. The truth? There are many things your husband wishes you knew, but he may […]
When your wife won’t talk. What to do if she’s giving you the silent treatment.
When your wife won’t talk and you’re met with silence, it can feel isolating, frustrating, and even frightening. The silent treatment is one of the most common (and most painful) dynamics couples face. The good news? With the right understanding and tools, you can break the cycle and restore connection. There are things your wife […]
Does the shoemaker have shoes? Our own marriage work.
The Shoemaker usually has no shoes. What’s true in our case of doing marriage work? It was the week before Passover, the busiest time of the year for our family. Rivka saw an email from our therapist listserv, looking for a volunteer couple to work with master therapist, Hedy Schleifer of HedyYumi.com.
Are You Comparing Your Marriage to Others and Feeling Discouraged?
By Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin, LCPC — Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor, Founder of The Marriage Restoration Project Why You Feel Like Everyone Else Has a Better Marriage You scroll through photos of “perfect” couples— smiling, happy, relaxed. You might think: “If their marriage looks that easy, why is mine so hard?”But here’s the truth: looks are […]
My husband is controlling and I can’t stand him!
What you can’t stand in your spouse may be your own reflection. “My husband is controlling!” “My wife is driving me crazy!” What drives you crazy about your spouse? Do you have a judgment that your husband is controlling and cheap? Do you feel that your wife is impulsive and irresponsible? If you take a […]
Parenting Advice: What Your Child Wishes You Knew…But Won’t Tell You
Every parent wants the best for their children. You invest enormous energy into providing, protecting, and nurturing. And yet, sometimes you see your child struggling and wonder: “What do they really need from me? What am I missing?” The truth is—children don’t always have the words to express what they feel or need. But if […]
Do you have a fear of drifting apart in a relationship?
Do you have a fear of drifting apart in a relationship? Staying happily married requires active participation in growing the relationship. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to drift apart from your spouse.
My spouse will not go to marriage counseling
My Spouse will not go to Marriage Counseling and we need it. What can I do to persuade him/her? You found marriage help that may just work this time, you tell your spouse about it, ask him/her to join you, and you get a big fat “NO”. What are you supposed to do with a […]
Love Again. A Lesson from Passover.
As we approach Passover (Pesach), I have been thinking a lot about how couples can release themselves from the bondage of their negativity and learn to love again. Couples often come in to my marriage counseling office stuck in their “stuff.” While we are usually able to break through and shift the energy in the […]
5 Marriage Communication Problems & How to Fix Them
Key Takeaways Most communication problems in marriage boil down to threat/defense cycles; lowering threat (tone, timing, clarity) unlocks progress. Use a soft start-up (I-statement + one fact + one feeling + one specific request) to reduce defensiveness and increase repair attempts. Replace mind reading and unsolicited advice with active listening and validation phrases so your […]
No Communication in Marriage? Learn Why. Maximizer vs Minimizer Styles
In a marriage, we need to make sure we communicate effectively. Our communication styles dictate for the most part how we react in certain situations, and the two most common communication styles are maximizers and minimizers. A maximizer is loud and boisterous, while the minimizer is reserved and avoids conflict. This dynamic can become very […]
The Ten Year Itch: How Ben Affleck may have thrown in the towel too early.
Could it be the 10 year itch? Two year ago during his acceptance speech for Best Picture at the Oscars, Ben Affleck thanked his wife, Jennifer Garner, and commented on their then eight year marriage: “It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with.” […]
Kabbalah Counseling and Celebrity Divorces
Much was reported a few years ago when Hollywood celebrities Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher turned to Kabbalah as a “last-ditch” effort to save their marriage. While it didn’t work to save their marriage which had recurring bouts of infidelity, the teachings of Kabbalah can be insightful in providing guidance for Ashton Kutcher’s recent second […]
Communication or Provocation? Tips to Fix Communication for Couples
Just got off the phone today with a customer service experience that was quite hellish. Clearly, this business owner never learned how to communicate effectively. It’s amazing that he is still in business with his abusive manner and communication problems.. More inspiration on fixing communication problems in marriage. How to transform your anger into compassion […]
What to do when you are falling out of love
What to do when you are falling out of love? When you feel like you are falling out of love, you need to take action! Not to consider divorce, since that will work against you later on, (see why that is here), but to actually create love! Our love advice may seem counter-intuitive, but it […]