Recognizing the Four Horsemen in Your Own Marriage According to Gottman
John Gottman borrowed the four horsemen of marriage from the four horsemen of the apocalypse in the Christian religion. Recognizing the four horsemen in your own relationship is crucial for you both to mitigate a destructive fight.The four horsemen of marriage are behaviors and feelings that can destroy a healthy relationship according to John Gottman, […]
What are Divorce Prevention Retreats?
Has the health of your marriage relationship spiraled out of control? If you feel that you are on the brink of splitting up with your spouse our divorce prevention retreats can help. The goal of our intensive marriage retreats is to prevent divorce by helping you and your spouse reconnect and bring back the spark […]
Wife Yells at Me: Why & How to Make it Stop
Does your wife yell and scream at you often? If the behavior is relatively new there could be an unresolved issue or point of contention that you need to address together to stop the loud outbursts. If the yelling is chronic behavior you should know that yelling at your spouse is an unproductive and unhealthy […]
Trauma Dumping in Relationships: Signs, Causes & How to Overcome It
It is normal and even healthy to vent to friends about something your partner does that upsets you, but when taken to the extreme it is called trauma dumping. When you overshare traumas with someone repeatedly it can harm your relationship with that person and sometimes qualify as emotional infidelity if it’s about your spouse. […]
Why Presenting a United Front with your Husband or Wife is So Important for a Healthy Relationship
The most sacred vow a person can make in marriage is to honor their union for the rest of their lives. Presenting a united front is the simplest example of this unification. When two different people create a life together there will eventually be disagreements and differences of opinion along the way. Healthy conflict is […]
Helping Your Partner Manage Life While They are Healing from Trauma
Emotional trauma can present some very challenging elements in a relationship, causing both partners to feel frustrated, unfulfilled, misunderstood, and even unloved at times. The person who has endured the emotional trauma, whether it occurred during childhood or as an adult, can react irrationally, seem apathetic, or even neglectful in certain situations. These unexpected reactions […]
Christmas Holiday Activities To Do As a Couple
Have you ever wondered what to do for your holiday dates with your significant other? Prepare for the most wonderful time of the year as a couple with a guide filled with fun and entertaining activities that you can do together over the Christmas holidays. Christmas Holiday Activities To Do As a Couple December is […]
How To Use Mindfulness To Resolve Unhealthy Marriage Conflicts
Productive marital conflict can help you work through complex challenges and compromise on important issues. But it’s easy to get reactive during conflicts and feel the survival urge to fight, flee or freeze. If reactivity becomes the norm, you could also become unhappy and frustrated in your marriage. Try using mindfulness to become more aware, […]
The Importance of Intentional Validation & Empathy in Your Relationship
Intentional validation in marriage is the act of validating your spouse’s feelings and expressions intentionally to ensure they feel like their feelings are valid. Have you ever felt like your husband or wife wasn’t really “getting” what you were trying to say? Unfortunately, many of us have experienced this feeling. In the rush of day-today […]
Signs Your Husband is Experiencing Long-Term Grief & What You Can Do to Help Him Move Forward
Behavior among grieving men and women typically differs dramatically. Women usually embrace the gut-wrenching feeling of bereavement, allowing themselves to cry and show vulnerability. It’s more common for men to become detached and/or shut down emotionally and physically while grieving. This is because most men deeply value their role as caregivers and providers, so they […]
Prioritizing Your Spouse Even When You’re Busy with Work & Kids
Sometimes there just isn’t enough time in the day to all the things you planned on, but you always have time to spend 5 minutes of quality time with your spouse to reconnect. After getting the kids ready and off to school in the morning, the mad dash to get yourself ready for work and […]
3 Ways to Find the Right Marriage Counselor for You
It’s not easy to find a therapist, much less a couples therapist! That’s due to so many factors! In this episode, we talk about How to Find the Right Couples Therapist in 3 ways so that you can be sure that the effort you make towards getting real marriage help will actually work for you. […]
5 Ways You Might be Undermining Your Marriage Without Even Realizing It
As spouses, we sometimes do seemingly innocuous things that end up being much more harmful to our marriage than we realize, especially if we do them repeatedly over time. In other instances, what might look like “normal” behaviors can actually be a warning sign of underlying distress within the relationship. To keep the allegorical “slowly boiling frog” out of […]
Why weekly marriage counseling does not always work and what to do instead.
Intensive marriage retreats are the fastest way to achieve clarity on your situation and to know if your marriage is salvageable. Let’s face it- weekly marriage counseling can “stretch” out for months sometimes even years. You don’t have that amount of time to wait for answers! Plus, if your spouse is hesitant to working on […]
How the Big 5 Personality Traits Affect Your Relationships & Marriage Satisfaction
Each of our personalities are as unique as fingerprints but each person’s distinct behavior and feelings when faced with similar situations is deeply affected by our underlying personality traits. Psychologists and sociologists have conducted dozens of studies since the 1980’s to define these traits and identify how each one affects our academic ability and personality. […]
What’s the Quickest Way to See a Positive Change in Your Marriage? 🤔
12 brave couples decided to try their luck this past weekend at our Getting the Love You Want workshop in Baltimore. They all had something in common (besides being brave enough to commit to improving their relationship without knowing what to expect). Each of them walked away with new hope for the future of their […]
How Emotional Neglect Experienced in Childhood Affects Our Relationships as Adults
Did you or your spouse face emotional neglect as a child? Are you concerned that emotional trauma from your past could be contributing to the conflict you’re experiencing in your marriage today? The parallels between the things you experienced in your childhood and how you behave in your your adult life are unmistakable. People who experience emotional […]
Overcoming Intimacy Issues Caused by Childhood Trauma
According to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration1 (SAMHSA) more than 2 in 3 children experience at least one traumatic event by the time they turn 16. SAMSHA’s examples of potentially traumatizing experiences range from psychological, physical, and sexual abuse to national disasters, neglect, and serious accidents or life-threatening illnesses. These examples are […]
Define Infidelity-Types of Cheating & How they can Affect Relationships
Infidelity occurs when someone has an emotional, financial, romantic, or sexual relationship with someone other than one’s husband, wife, or partner in a monogamous relationship. Experiencing infidelity can be incredibly nuanced, painful, and frightening for any couple going through it. Couples often disagree about what constitutes cheating, which is why we encourage couples to discuss this […]
Do You Have to Beg your Spouse for Attention? Learn Tips for a Closer Connection Without Seeming Needy
Do you sometimes feel like you have to practically beg your husband or wife for attention? That can be a lonely place. Healthy relationships come in many shapes and forms, but all are built on a foundation of connection. Common interests, shared values and goals, deep trust, mutual support—these are just some of the characteristics that spouses in […]