What’s Really Going on Behind the Scenes of the Therapy World…from the Wife of a Marriage Counselor!
The Good, the Bad, the Ugly. I can reveal a bit more than my husband Shlomo can (therapist) about what’s REALLY going on behind the scenes in the therapy world as the wife of a therapist and not having the limitations of being one myself. It’s so wonderful that we are in a world where […]
How to Constructively Communicate Your Frustration(s) to Your Spouse: A Close Look at the Imago Dialogue
Let’s talk about something that happens in all relationships at one point or another – feeling frustrated with your spouse. Communicating Effectively Using Imago It’s perfectly normal. Whether it’s how many times each of you cook dinner over the week, messes left uncleaned or the bigger stuff like feeling undervalued or overlooked, these frustrations can […]
Marriage Counseling Can Make Things Worse – This is How to Make Sure it Won’t Deepen Your Relationship Issues
What happens if your genuine attempt at saving your marriage – investing your time and money in traditional weekly couples’ therapy – actually exacerbates your relationship issues and makes things worse? This unsettling scenario is more common than one might think, as traditional counseling approaches can sometimes deepen misunderstandings, foster partiality, and leave couples feeling […]
Stuck in the Imago Minimizer/Maximizer Communication Pattern Trap?
In marriages, the minimizer/maximizer dynamic describes how partners respond to stress and conflict: minimizers tend to withdraw, while maximizers seek engagement and expression. This difference in communication styles in conflict can lead to misunderstandings and tension if not properly managed. The Minimizer/Maximizer Relationship Dynamic is Common in High Conflict Marriages If you’re in a relationship […]
Deepening the Connection: The Imago Way to a Conscious Marriage (part 2)
In Part 1 of “Choosing Each Other Again: The Imago Way to a Conscious Marriage“ we explored the crucial role of choosing your partner every day to maintain a strong and healthy relationship. We introduced how Imago Relationship Therapy helps couples understand the reasons behind their initial attraction and provides them with practical strategies to […]
Is this Your Marriage? Take the Maximizer or Minimizer Quiz and Get a Helpful Assessment of the State Your Relationship!
Did the Maximizer/Minimizer dynamic feel familiar to you? It’s based on Imago Therapy’s turtles and hailstorm dynamic which is a relief for so many couples to discover. If these quiz questions describe your relationship we can help you! All of our programs (workshops, courses, private intensive counseling address and explore how to fix it through […]
Choosing Each Other Again: The Imago Way to a Conscious Marriage (Part 1)
I. Wondering whether you married the right person is normal When you first decided to be together, there was a compelling reason behind that choice—a reason that Imago relationship therapy believes is foundational and significant. We’ll talk more about that reason in just a bit. As the initial excitement of a relationship fades, it’s common […]
Do we still believe in marriage?
In 2017 I published an article called “How My Therapist Destroyed My Marriage“. It was pretty controversial. I got a lot of “hate mail” from other therapists. Others Have Experienced Nightmarish Marriage Counseling Fails as Well I must admit that I felt a little intimidated until my phone started ringing (and still does) with those […]
How to Apologize to Your Spouse Effectively: Healing Through Imago Therapy Techniques
Navigating the Path to Sincere Apologies In every marriage, the journey is filled with moments of joy and challenges, where the words we choose and the way we communicate can either build bridges or walls between us. Apologizing to your spouse, a simple yet profound act, often becomes a stumbling block for many couples. It’s […]
Reviving Connection: Solving Common Communication Challenges in Marriage with Imago Therapy
Alex and Jordan used to talk about everything, from the big dreams to the small details of their day, feeling connected in a way that seemed unbreakable.Their early days were filled with deep discussions and laughter over morning coffee. But as time passed, those easy, deep conversations started to fade. Now, they find themselves stuck […]
Enhancing Your Relationship Through Self-Care, Together: A Mutual Journey to Well-being
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that taking care of ourselves somehow takes away from our relationships. We’re often led to believe that the more we give and sacrifice, the better partners we are. But here’s the truth: neglecting our own well-being doesn’t make us better lovers or friends; it just leaves […]
Understanding Emotional Intimacy: What It Is, Why It’s Essential & How to Cultivate It
Cultivating Deeper Emotional Connections in Your Relationship Exploring the Essence of Emotional Intimacy in Relationships Have you ever felt a lingering sense of longing in your relationship, a subtle yet persistent feeling that something essential is missing, but you can’t quite put your finger on it? Often, this gap we sense is not due to […]
Rekindling the Spark: 5 Actionable Steps When You Love Your Spouse But Aren’t In Love
Navigating the Evolving Stages of Marriage When you first said “I do,” you likely found yourself in the enchanting honeymoon phase of marriage, where everything felt perfect, and your love seemed unshakeable. This blissful period, characterized by deep attraction and an overwhelming sense of unity, represents the first stage of a marital journey. However, as […]
Overcoming Silence: 5 Thoughtful Strategies For When Your Spouse Avoids Relationship Talks
How to Encourage Open Dialogue in Your Marriage Navigating a relationship where one partner is hesitant to discuss issues can feel like walking through a maze blindfolded. Their reluctance to communicate can leave you feeling isolated and perplexed, pondering over a myriad of unanswered questions. Is it fear, misunderstanding, or perhaps a deep-seated belief that […]
15 Positive Signs of a Healthy Marriage: Expert Insights from a Relationship Therapist
Celebrating the Strengths of Your Marriage: 15 Green Flags to Look For We often hear about red flags in relationships—the signs of distress or disconnection. But it’s just as important, if not more so, to recognize the green flags—the signs that your marriage is not just surviving, but thriving. After working with many couples over […]
3 Key Strategies to Strengthen Your Marriage When Times Get Tough
When the Easy Road Turns Rocky in relationships. Strengthening Your Marriage with Resilience Perhaps you didn’t expect your marriage to be a walk in the park. At the same time, you may not have anticipated it’d be so tough at times. Some days it feels like you’re on a smooth path, hand in hand, everything […]
If you’re feeling BETRAYED by your husband or wife & you feel like you can’t TRUST.
Cheating stinks. Whether it’s a physical or emotional affair – there’s a lot of trust that now has to be rebuilt if you are going to try and stay together. Working to repair on your own can be challenging and this video can help you start the affair repair process. You’ll want to also consult […]
3 Ways to Find the Right Marriage Counselor for You
It’s not easy to find a therapist, much less a couples therapist! That’s due to so many factors! In this episode, we talk about How to Find the Right Couples Therapist in 3 ways so that you can be sure that the effort you make towards getting real marriage help will actually work for you. […]
Why weekly marriage counseling does not always work and what to do instead.
Intensive marriage retreats are the fastest way to achieve clarity on your situation and to know if your marriage is salvageable. Let’s face it- weekly marriage counseling can “stretch” out for months sometimes even years. You don’t have that amount of time to wait for answers! Plus, if your spouse is hesitant to working on […]
What’s the Quickest Way to See a Positive Change in Your Marriage? 🤔
12 brave couples decided to try their luck this past weekend at our Getting the Love You Want workshop in Baltimore. They all had something in common (besides being brave enough to commit to improving their relationship without knowing what to expect). Each of them walked away with new hope for the future of their […]