Conscious uncoupling is a break up process that strives to keep each party optimistic and civilized. If you have children, you’ll always be in relationship – even if you get divorced. Pre divorce counseling can help guide you. Even if you decide to get divorced or go through the conscious uncoupling process, it is important to do it in a way that does the least amount of harm to yourself and your children. Even if you think things will be amicable and you’ll be able to get along for the sake of the kids, if you are initiating divorce against your spouse’s will, it may not be long before he/she is angry, resentful, and ready to wage a war against you for changing his/her life. Here’s what you need to know if you’re in the pre divorce stage.
That’s why it’s crucial for you both to be able to learn how to process what you are going through, communicate effectively, and get closure through conscious uncoupling. It not only will benefit your children and prevent them from becoming pawns in your war, it will help you both be able to move forward in the healthiest possible way, not to mention help you be more conscious if you choose one day to enter another committed relationship.
This flies in the face of others that may seem to be looking out for your best interest. This could include family, friends, and lawyers. They may not advise you in the best interest of everyone involved so that even though you may end up with more assets, you’ll have to see if that will cost you in other areas of your life. I have seen that when lawyers get involved, it can destroy whatever working relationship the couple could have with each other and it creates a toxic environment that serves no one except the lawyer’s pockets.
Conscious Uncoupling Definition
Conscious uncoupling is a respectful type of break up or divorce, wherein both individuals show respect for one another through each step. Conscious uncouplers focus on the changing roles of their relationship with optimism, rather than the end of their romantic relationship. If you are going to get divorced, conscious uncoupling will allow you to say goodbye to your old relationship in the most humane and dignified way. It will allow you to move on with your life without the typical baggage that divorce brings, and most of all, provide the best possible scenario for your children, given that the family is no longer intact.
Conscious Uncoupling Steps
If you are looking for counseling so that you can consciously uncouple, our 2 day Private Conscious Uncoupling pre-divorce Discernment Retreat for Couples is an opportunity to achieve closure, forgiveness, and clarity about where you have been and create safe and productive communication patterns moving forward so that you can say good bye to your old relationship and your old way of being in relationship and be 100% confident in your decision. Contact us to talk more about the retreat at 443-645-0630.
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