Politics & Your Marriage: How to Focus on Your Relationship & Push Past the Divide
When it comes to relationships, one piece of advice that is more common than not is to never talk politics. Certainly a divisive topic, politics can quickly ignite a ‘fight to the death’ mode that can quickly come between the most secure and loving of couples and relationships. This is especially true in the United […]
The Principles of Imago Therapy Explained
For any couple who feels stuck in their relationship, it can be incredibly painful to admit that something isn’t working. Whether your marriage feels stagnant or conflict seems to erupt frequently, the sense that your relationship is unraveling can be both heartbreaking and overwhelming. When couples finally reach the point of realizing they need help, […]
A Get-a-Way to Restore Your Marriage: Upcoming Events & Marriage Intensive Retreats
For any couple who has reached a breaking point in their marriage, it can be daunting to even admit that you may need help. But realizing that your relationship is in danger and reaching out for support is the first step you can take on the road to recovery. By reaching out to a licensed […]
Is There Something Wrong With Going to Couples Therapy? 4 Things Therapists Want You to Know First
If you’re thinking about going to marriage therapy, you might quietly be asking yourself: Does this mean something is wrong with my relationship? Many couples are asking the question, “Is there something wrong with going to couples therapy?” You are NOT alone. Seeking therapy is often a sign of strength, not failure. The reason your […]
Supporting Your Spouse During Stressful Times: How to Stay Connected When Life Gets Hard
All of us face stressful seasons in life. But lately, challenges feel especially heavy—world conflict, financial uncertainty, health concerns. Even if the stress isn’t directly about your marriage, outside pressures inevitably spill over into the relationship. In times like these, marriage matters more than ever. Your partner should be a safe haven—a source of comfort, […]
People in Conventional Relationships can Learn a Lot from Neurodiverse Couples
Couples with one or both partners on the autism spectrum face challenges just like people in typical relationships do. Neurodiverse couples face communication challenges that can be addressed to maintain healthy, fulfilling, and long-lasting relationships. That said, there are plenty of unique strengths or benefits to being in a neurodiverse relationship! And while no two […]
After the Affair: How Honest Communication Can Help You Heal or Move On
Learning to Communicate Again After Infidelity Learning how to communicate again after experiencing infidelity is one of the most difficult obstacles a couple can face in a lifetime. However, it’s worth putting in the work because a relationship can never experience a deep emotional connection if partners cannot express themselves openly and feel understood. Infidelity […]
Do you believe in soulmates?
As a Rabbi and psychotherapist, I do believe we have soulmates. In my work with couples, I see how this plays out, particularly from the vantage point of Imago Relationship Therapy. The Journey We believe in Imago theory that a person is always attracted to the most positive and negative character traits of their primary […]
Why It’s Important to Go On Dates with Your Spouse & 3 Ideas to Try
Remember the excitement you felt when you were first dating your spouse? The amount of care you put into your outfit and your appearance? The anticipation of seeing each other and the strong desire to reach out and connect again? Going on dates isn’t something only new couples can enjoy. In fact, even though there […]
Work up the motivation to set a New Years Resolution and succeed (even if all other past attempts have failed)
After the doozy that was 2020 and 2021, is there even a point to setting a New Year’s resolution when so many things are out of our control? That may be your inner perfectionist talking- if it can’t be perfect why do it in the first place? It’s wonderful to have the blessings of a […]
Control Issues in a Relationship
“Control issues” usually stem from fear or anxiety. When a person is afraid of an outcome or wants things to be a certain way, they can become rigid. By feeling a sense of control, they can reduce their anxiety and feel that they have power. While it is easy to label someone as controlling, it […]
How to Successfully Co-Parent (Even Around the Holidays)
Co-parenting during the holidays brings unique stress—split schedules, emotional ups and downs, and heightened expectations all collide. But with thoughtful strategy and clear communication, you can create a joyful, stable holiday experience for your children. Why This Matters: Will holiday schedules tear our children apart? How do we avoid using the kids as pawns? Is […]
Is my spouse a narcissist?
Think your spouse is a narcissist? Thankfully there are a lot more resources out there to support a spouse married to an abusive partner. The most important thing is always to make sure that you are physically safe and not in danger. If you are truly safe and you’re just wondering about something someone may […]
What Surrendering in Marriage Really Means (and Why It Builds Trust)
When people hear the word surrender in marriage, it can feel loaded. Many immediately think: Becoming a doormat Losing independence Being taken advantage of But true surrender is not weakness. In fact, it requires self-respect, emotional intelligence, and inner strength. Healthy surrender in marriage is about letting go of unnecessary control, staying open-hearted, and building […]
Should You Work on Your Own “Stuff” Before Trying Couples Therapy?
Should I go to individual therapy before couples therapy? What if my therapist says I’m the problem in my marriage? Can couples therapy help if childhood trauma is involved? Do I need to fix myself before marriage counseling? For many couples, even deciding to go to marriage counseling is a big leap. You may worry […]
How Is Imago Marriage Counseling Different? Comparing Options When You’ve Tried Everything Else
One of the most common questions I hear from couples is: “How is your marriage counseling program different from the other counseling we’ve already tried?” At our last group retreat in Baltimore, a couple asked on the very first day: “Our previous therapist told us we were too volatile and should get divorced. How is […]
4 Things to Do When Dealing With a Toxic Family Member
It’s normal to have arguments, disagreements, and moments of frustration with our in-laws and close loved ones. If the disconnect becomes harmful and toxic, far beyond the occasional “button pushing” that all family members engage in it’s time to take action. “Family.” The word is dynamic, diverse, and loaded with history—and for all of us, occasional conflict, too. How […]
Silent Treatment in Marriage: Why It’s Toxic and How to Stop It
Whether you’re on the receiving end or giving it to your partner, the silent treatment can create a toxic dynamic in marriage. Most of us know what it feels like to shut down during conflict—walking around in cold silence, refusing to respond, or withdrawing behind walls. In the moment, silence may feel like safety or […]
3 Insightful Ways to Bring Up an Issue With Your Spouse
Want to talk to your husband or wife about something important but don’t know how to bring it up without starting a fight or scaring them away? Whether you’re an introvert, an empath, or find it difficult to have a conversation about something important with your partner; the key to a happy marriage is communication. […]
That’s Funny, Honey: Tips for Using Humor During Marital Conflict to Stop Fights in Their Tracks
Want to know why bringing the heat down a notch during a relationship conflict is so important? Close your eyes and picture the last time you and your spouse laughed together. Really put yourself in that memory, conjuring up how it felt. It felt good, right? Want to feel it again? There’s no question that […]