Getting Over an Affair: Your 7-Step Emergency Guide
If you’ve just discovered your spouse had an affair, you’re likely feeling overwhelmed—hurt, betrayed, angry, confused, or even ashamed. Whether you had the affair or your partner did, you’ve landed here because you’re looking for marriage counseling specializing in affair recovery. First, know this: there is hope. Healing after infidelity is one of the hardest […]
I Don’t Love My Spouse Anymore? Which of the 3 Relationship Stages are You In
The stages of a relationship are often misunderstood, and confused with what at first appears to be the end of a marriage. Find yourself saying “I don’t love my spouse anymore”? Wondering what to do if you don’t love your spouse anymore? Wondering if your marriage is over and beyond repair? These feelings are normal […]
How to Fix a Sexless Marriage: Dealing with the Root of the Problem
If you’re living in a marriage without intimacy, no doubt you are focusing on how to fix a sexless marriage. However, trying focusing on the absence of sex in your marriage as the problem is not productive without tackling the general relationship problems that exist. It is not going to work. We talk about exploring […]
You Found Out Your Spouse is Using Pornography: Now What?
You found out your spouse is using pornography. You’re hurt, shocked, and horrified that you discovered porn. Keep reading for what to do. Q and A with sex therapist Mieke Rivka Sidorsky, LCSW-C about what to do when your spouse is using pornography. With the advent of the internet, pornography has become an increasingly common […]
My wife wants a divorce. Now what?
My wife wants a divorce. Your first reaction might be shock, disbelief, hurt, or anger. Think before you respond, as any strong reaction is likely to do more harm than good. More inspiration for you when your wife wants a divorce: Should I give her space or keep trying? My wife left. I want her […]
Why Is My Wife So Mean to Me? Understanding Anger in Marriage and How to Respond
If you’ve ever wondered: “Why is my wife always mean to me?” “Why does my wife yell at me all the time?” “Is my wife verbally abusive, or just angry?” …you’re not alone. Many husbands write to us with these exact questions, struggling with wives who yell, criticize, or lash out in ways that feel […]
I cheated on my wife.
“I cheated on my wife. How do I win her back?” No doubt your wife is probably feeling betrayed and may not be interested in working on the relationship or even salvaging your relationship at this point. “I cheated on my wife”: More inspiration for you Learn how to fix a relationship after cheating Infidelity […]
When your husband isn’t interested in marital intimacy
If your husband isn’t interested in marital intimacy it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is having an affair and getting it elsewhere. While it is a possibility, and could be a red flag if he has lost interest in sex, there are other factors that might be contributing to his lack of desire. More inspiration […]
The easiest way to avoid falling out of love is to do what every Imago therapy session requires.
We find that the easiest way to avoid falling out of love is to recommit to taking the time to make extended and connected eye contact with each other. It’s what every Imago therapy session requires. Not sure how to do it? More inspiration on how an Imago therapy session reawakens love: More than just […]
Never Give Up! Even the worst marriage can be saved.
A personal letter from a couple with the “worst marriage”: Never give up! Even the worst marriage can be saved!
No Communication in Marriage? Learn Why. Maximizer vs Minimizer Styles
In a marriage, we need to make sure we communicate effectively. Our communication styles dictate for the most part how we react in certain situations, and the two most common communication styles are maximizers and minimizers. A maximizer is loud and boisterous, while the minimizer is reserved and avoids conflict. This dynamic can become very […]
5 Marriage Communication Problems & How to Fix Them
Marriage communication problems are one of the biggest challenges couples face in a marriage. The inability to communicate effectively with one’s spouse can lead to one or both partners feeling unheard, not cared for, and/or unloved. The bad news is that communication problems can have a devastating and even fatal impact on a marriage. The […]
Love Again. A Lesson from Passover.
As we approach Passover (Pesach), I have been thinking a lot about how couples can release themselves from the bondage of their negativity and learn to love again. Couples often come in to my marriage counseling office stuck in their “stuff.” While we are usually able to break through and shift the energy in the […]
My spouse will not go to marriage counseling
My Spouse will not go to Marriage Counseling and we need it. What can I do to persuade him/her? You found marriage help that may just work this time, you tell your spouse about it, ask him/her to join you, and you get a big fat “NO”. What are you supposed to do with a […]
Do you have a fear of drifting apart in a relationship?
Do you have a fear of drifting apart in a relationship? Staying happily married requires active participation in growing the relationship. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to drift apart from your spouse.
Parenting Advice: What Your Child Wishes You Knew…But Won’t Tell You
Every parent wants the best for their children. You invest enormous energy into providing, protecting, and nurturing. And yet, sometimes you see your child struggling and wonder: “What do they really need from me? What am I missing?” The truth is—children don’t always have the words to express what they feel or need. But if […]
My husband is controlling and I can’t stand him!
What you can’t stand in your spouse may be your own reflection. “My husband is controlling!” “My wife is driving me crazy!” What drives you crazy about your spouse? Do you have a judgment that your husband is controlling and cheap? Do you feel that your wife is impulsive and irresponsible? If you take a […]
Are you guilty of comparing marriages?
The good news is, if you’re guilty of comparing marriages, know that looks can be deceiving. You’d never know from our recent photo shoot that we couldn’t wait for it to end. Between the baby crying and the other kids trying to run away, we couldn’t wait for the photo shoot to be done. But […]
Does the shoemaker have shoes? Our own marriage work.
The Shoemaker usually has no shoes. What’s true in our case of doing marriage work? It was the week before Passover, the busiest time of the year for our family. Rivka saw an email from our therapist listserv, looking for a volunteer couple to work with master therapist, Hedy Schleifer of HedyYumi.com.
When your wife won’t talk. What to do if she’s giving you the silent treatment.
When your wife won’t talk and you’re met with silence, it can feel isolating, frustrating, and even frightening. The silent treatment is one of the most common (and most painful) dynamics couples face. The good news? With the right understanding and tools, you can break the cycle and restore connection. There are things your wife […]