Learning from Mice: Research on Love and Relationships
You may be passing down your fearful memories to your children without even telling them. At least that’s what a recent study by two neurobiologists at Emory University is hypothesizing. Their findings are detailed in a recent article in Scientific American. They studied epigenetic inheritance in laboratory mice trained to fear the smell of the […]
How to Talk About Touchy Subjects using the Imago Couples Dialogue
A few years ago I had the fortune of traveling to Israel for a Jewish holiday. This trip was a long time in the making and may not have been possible if my wife and I were not versed in the Imago Couple’s Dialogue.
Can I revive a failed marriage?
My daughter had a friend over recently whose own parents recently divorced. When she found out I am a marriage counselor, she said, “But isn’t it true that some marriages are just meant to fail? I mean, my parents tried everything and there was nothing more that they could do. That’s just how it was […]
How to reduce fighting in front of the kids
How can we reduce fighting in front of the kids? This important piece of marriage advice on the topic of how to stop fighting in front of the kids, is a critical one and should be implemented the minute you finish reading this page! It can be very difficult to stop fighting in front of […]
Did I Marry the Right Person?
“Did I marry the right person?” While you may expect this question to be reserved for newlyweds, unfortunately, there are couples who are grandparents still asking this question. I find this question to be one of the most destructive questions you could ask about your marriage. Living with an unhappy marriage can be one of […]
Rebuild Trust in a Marriage: in the case of prior love relationships.
Previous love relationships can sometimes threaten the trust between a husband and wife. If talks about your spouse’s prior love relationships and previous boyfriends or girlfriends have contributed to a break down in trust between the two of you, this post will help you learn how to rebuild trust in a marriage. More inspiration on […]
Anxiety is ruining my marriage, Help!
Anxiety is ruining my marriage, help! With all of the stress that is going on in the world and in the news coupled with managing work, the family, and all of your day to day responsibilities it’s no wonder that so many of you feel anxious! The effects of anxiety can ruin romantic relationships, marriages, […]
When you’re looking for Affordable Marriage Counseling
If you’re looking for affordable marriage counseling, know this. You get what you pay for. The “cheapest” marriage counselor is not going to be the best marriage counselor, most likely. However, there is room to go after high quality marriage counseling and work to make it as affordable as possible. Need more inspiration? Read the […]
How to be Happy in an Unhappy Marriage: Turn it Around
Are you in an unhappy marriage? Like you are doing all the work in your relationship? Are you at your wits’ end? It is extremely disappointing and exasperating if your spouse has “checked out” of his/her role in your relationship. You are probably feeling lonely and hopeless that your marriage will ever be what you […]
Fear of drifting apart in a relationship
Are you afraid that you’ve been drifting apart in a relationship? Staying happily married requires active participation in growing the relationship. If you’re not careful, it’s easy to drift apart from your spouse. More inspiration for how to prevent drifting apart in a marriage: 3 ways to infuse love into a relationship What to do […]
How to Deal With a Needy Spouse — And Decide If the Marriage Can Be Saved
Are you considering divorce because your spouse’s emotional needs feel overwhelming? You may relate to the following question from a reader we addressed —a spouse contemplating divorce due to exhaustion from dealing with a “needy” partner. Reader Question: “My wife over the last week has told me she wants a divorce but not until after […]
Spouse has ADHD? Link Between ADHD Spouse & Anger Issues in Marriage
Do you have an “ADHD spouse”? We counsel a lot of couples who are experiencing anger in their relationship. Interestingly enough, that anger could be an indicator that one spouse has ADHD. We asked Dr Melissa Orlov, an ADHD expert and author of The ADHD Effect on Marriage, for her input on the topic. We’ll […]
My spouse has a diagnosis of a personality disorder- The Danger of Diagnosis
If you’ve recently discovered that your spouse has a diagnosis of a personality disorder, no doubt that you may secretly think that you made a mistake in choosing him/her. There’s more to the picture though and you need to keep reading! “I think my husband has Aspergers or a personality disorder; is it possible to […]
“The Dangers of Diagnosis” II- When Spouse has a Personality Disorder
The first article I wrote on the Dangers of Diagnosis brought out strong responses. Some agreed wholeheartedly, others felt I minimized the pain of living with a spouse who struggles with serious mental illness. My goal here is to clarify, especially when the issue involves a suspected personality disorder. What to do when you think […]
Marriage Issues: Stopping Emotional Abuse in Marriage
What is emotional abuse in marriage? It can be hard to quantify since it differs greatly from physical abuse but can be the slippery slope that leads to it. Emotional Abuse: What You Should Know Emotional abuse is a topic we get questions about often. So many relationships are suffering from emotional abuse. Stopping emotional […]
I’m married to a narcissistic husband. Please help!
Recently a client reached out and said “I’m married to a narcissistic husband, please help!” We helped her and her husband identify behavioral patterns and learn to create emotional safety using the Imago communication method. Here’s another question from a wife about whether or not her husband has narcissistic personality disorder and how it is […]
Household Management together
Organize together and create a Romantic Master Bedroom
Is a Romantic Master Bedroom the Secret to a Happy Marriage? More inspiration on organizing together: Free online marriage counseling on household management Organizing can save your marriage
Active Listening vs. Defensive Listening: How to Really Hear Your Spouse
When your spouse says something that stings, do you find yourself reacting, defending, or shutting down? You might think you’re a good listener, but the real difference between couples who stay connected and couples who drift apart often comes down to how they listen. On relationship forums like Reddit, many partners ask: “How do I […]
Online Marriage Help: Does it Work? Or Make Things Worse?
Humans are fallible and so are marriage counselors. The good news is that once you understand why some marriage counseling doesn’t work and may make things worse, then you are much better equipped to choosing online marriage help that WILL work. More inspiration about marriage counseling that works: Our 90% marriage counseling success rate Does […]