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What Percentage of Marriages Survive Counseling? And Why the Right Therapist Makes All the Difference

If you’ve tried marriage counseling before and walked away more discouraged than hopeful, you’re not alone. Many couples come to us saying things like, “Therapy actually made things worse,” or “We felt like the therapist took sides.”

It’s heartbreaking—and it’s a reality far too many couples face.

So what percentage of marriages actually survive counseling? And more importantly, what makes the difference between counseling that heals and counseling that harms?

Let’s unpack it.

How Many Marriages Are Saved by Counseling?

Studies estimate that about 50–60% of couples show improvement after traditional marriage counseling. But when it comes to long-term success, that number drops. Only around 30% of couples fully recover their relationship through standard therapy. That means the majority of couples either stall out or split up—even with professional help.

Why? In our experience, it’s not because couples didn’t care or didn’t try hard enough. It’s because the model of therapy they were given wasn’t built for true relational healing.

Why Traditional Marriage Counseling Sometimes Fails

Here’s what we’ve seen over the years as common issues:

1. The Therapist Takes Sides

Instead of creating a safe, neutral space, the therapist aligns with one partner—leaving the other defensive, shamed, or shut down.

2. The Therapist Isn’t Trained to Work with Couples

Many therapists are trained to work with individuals, not couples. Working with a couple is not just doing individual therapy with two people in the room—it’s an entirely different skill set.

3. Sessions Held Separately or Unequally

Some therapists meet with each spouse individually and bring their personal issues into the couple’s space. This can breed secrecy, triangulation, and a breakdown of trust between partners.

4. Reinforcing Doubts Instead of Repair

In sessions, some therapists unintentionally validate one partner’s doubts about the relationship rather than guiding both people toward understanding and repair. This can increase hopelessness.

5. Only One Partner Attends Therapy

This is more common than you might think. One partner goes to therapy for the marriage, but the other isn’t involved. This leads to more distance, Sometimes, one spouse starts individual therapy to “work on the marriage” alone. While well-meaning, this can actually create more distance unless it’s paired with intentional couple-focused work.

What We Do Differently at The Marriage Restoration Project

Shlomo Slatkin, our founder and lead therapist, has worked with couples for over two decades. He developed our unique 5-step system after seeing firsthand what does—and doesn’t—help couples move forward.

At the core of our approach is this belief: the relationship is the client. And that’s why we have a much higher marriage counseling success rate—is that our therapists sees the relationship as the client, not either individual partner.

We don’t take sides. We don’t label one person the problem. And we don’t leave couples with vague advice that’s impossible to implement at home.

Instead, Shlomo helps couples:

  • Slow down emotionally reactive conversations
  • Communicate safely and intentionally
  • Identify the unconscious patterns playing out in the relationship
  • Heal the root of long-standing conflicts, not just the symptoms

Many couples who felt hopeless after failed counseling experiences find their footing again through our structured therapy system. They finally feel safe, seen, and supported—not just as individuals, but as a unit.

If Therapy Has Let You Down, It’s Not Too Late

We understand how risky it feels to try again—especially if you’ve already invested time and money with little to show for it. But the problem wasn’t you, and it wasn’t even necessarily your spouse. More often than not, the model of therapy just wasn’t built for success.

That’s why we do things differently. And that’s why our retreats and programs continue to help even the most stuck couples find their way back to each other.

You don’t need another therapist to analyze you. You need someone who knows how to help you both feel safe, seen, and supported.

We believe in the possibility of repair—even when it feels like the last chance. Our marriage therapy weekends are designed to accomplish in two days what might take six months in traditional counseling. We create a safe, structured environment for both partners to be heard, understood, and reconnected.

Because your marriage deserves more than guesswork. It deserves a method that actually works.

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Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

Picture of Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

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