One of the hardest things to do is to listen without getting defensive and reactive. And you know by now, that if you don’t know how to listen, the fight will escalate and worsen. The following video will give you 3 tips to help listen to your spouse without getting defensive.

It was originally recorded for LinkedIn to help with supporting workplace relationships, but these are 3 strategies that can apply to any and all relationships and are a must follow!


3 Tips to Help Listen to Your Spouse Without Getting Defensive

  1. Listening Tip #1: Mirror: Repeat back what the person is saying
  2. Listening Tip #2: Validate: Know that they have a story and they make sense in their own “world”
  3. Listening Tip #3: Empathize: Let them know that you understand how they might be feeling

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