Tips to Help Listen to Your Spouse Without Getting Defensive

One of the hardest things to do is to listen without getting defensive and reactive. And you know by now, that if you don’t know how to listen, the fight will escalate and worsen. The following video will give you 3 tips to help listen to your spouse without getting defensive.

It was originally recorded for LinkedIn to help with supporting workplace relationships, but these are 3 strategies that can apply to any and all relationships and are a must follow!

3 Tips to Help Listen to Your Spouse Without Getting Defensive

Listening Tip #1: Mirror: Repeat back what the person is saying
Listening Tip #2: Validate: Know that they have a story and they make sense in their own “world”
Listening Tip #3: Empathize: Let them know that you understand how they might be feeling

Sometimes it helps to have a professional guide you through a conversation in a safe way so that it doesn’t turn reactive and defensive.

Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

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