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Should I get a divorce Relationship Quiz.

Are you wondering whether your marriage is worth saving or if it’s time to consider divorce? If you’re feeling unsure, you’re not alone. It’s natural to have doubts when your relationship feels strained or disconnected. But before making any major decisions, it’s important to assess the situation carefully.

Take this “Should I Get a Divorce?” Relationship Quiz to help identify key warning signs in your marriage. Whether you’re struggling with communication, intimacy, or emotional distance, the answers to these questions can help clarify whether divorce is the right path or if there’s still hope for healing your relationship.

Answer the following questions honestly:

  1. Are you talking about your spouse to everyone except your spouse?

    Yes
    No

    Why it matters:
    If you find yourself venting to friends, family, or coworkers about your spouse instead of talking directly to them, it’s a sign that there may be unresolved issues that need to be addressed. Open communication is key to solving problems in a relationship, and sharing your frustrations outside the marriage can erode trust and lead to misunderstandings.

    What to do:
    Take a step back and consider discussing your concerns directly with your spouse. Practice speaking from a place of vulnerability and ownership. Ask your spouse when a good time is to talk and be sure to express your feelings without blaming them. Appreciation for your spouse’s willingness to listen can go a long way.


  1. Is there a lack of physical intimacy?

    Yes
    No

    Why it matters:
    Physical intimacy is more than just a physical connection; it’s a bond that helps nurture emotional closeness and affection in a relationship. If intimacy is absent, it could signal deeper issues, like emotional disconnection, mistrust, or unresolved conflicts.

    What to do:
    Before jumping to conclusions, think about whether there might be underlying reasons for the lack of intimacy, such as stress, health issues, or emotional pain. However, if the lack of intimacy is due to emotional neglect or feelings of disconnection, it’s crucial to address it directly and consider seeking professional help.


  1. Do you avoid coming home?

    Yes
    No

    Why it matters:
    If you find yourself staying late at work or spending extra time with friends to avoid being home, it might indicate that you’re emotionally avoiding your spouse or the issues in your marriage. This behavior often stems from feelings of dissatisfaction or emotional pain, which can cause you to escape rather than face the problem.

    What to do:
    Take some time to reflect on why you’re avoiding home. Are you feeling unappreciated or ignored? Rather than avoiding the problem, take small steps to reconnect emotionally with your spouse. You might want to consider marriage counseling to facilitate better communication and emotional intimacy.


  1. Are you constantly fighting?

    Yes
    No

    Why it matters:
    Constant fighting can feel like a never-ending cycle of frustration. If arguments are frequent, it could mean that underlying issues are being ignored, and resentment is building. Constant conflict can harm the emotional foundation of your relationship and lead to long-term damage.

    What to do:
    Focus on improving communication and reducing defensiveness during arguments. If you find yourselves fighting about the same things over and over, it may be time to dig deeper into the root causes of your conflicts. Consider seeking couples therapy to help break the negative patterns and create a healthier way to engage with each other.


  1. Do you no longer feel in love with your spouse?

    Yes
    No

    Why it matters:
    Falling out of love can feel confusing and unsettling. If you no longer feel the emotional connection you once had with your spouse, it could be a sign that your relationship needs attention and effort. Sometimes, love fades when it isn’t nurtured or when unmet needs create distance between partners.

    What to do:
    First, recognize that it’s possible to rekindle love through intentional effort. Consider making time for each other—whether through date nights, deep conversations, or meaningful experiences. You may also want to explore marriage counseling to help rediscover the connection and love that you might feel has faded.


How Did You Score?

  • Mostly Yes:
    It’s clear that your relationship is facing serious challenges. While these issues are painful, they aren’t necessarily signs that divorce is inevitable. Many of these struggles can be worked through with commitment, patience, and professional help. It’s time to have an honest conversation with your spouse and consider seeking marriage counseling to address the root causes of your relationship issues.

  • Mostly No:
    Great news! Your marriage seems to be in a healthier place than you may have realized. However, every relationship goes through its ups and downs, so it’s important to stay proactive. Keep nurturing your emotional connection, communicate openly, and be attentive to each other’s needs. If challenges arise, don’t hesitate to seek guidance from a professional.


What to Do Next?

If your answers indicate that your relationship is struggling, don’t worry—you have options! Divorce isn’t the only answer. There are many ways to address the underlying issues in your marriage and start the healing process. Consider these next steps:

  • Marriage Counseling
    Whether individually or together, therapy can help you explore your emotions, improve communication, and work through conflicts.

  • Marriage Retreats
    A marriage retreat can provide a dedicated space to reconnect and refocus on your relationship, often leading to positive breakthroughs.

  • Self-Help Resources
    There are many online courses, books, and tools designed to help couples reconnect and improve their relationships.

Remember, the first step is acknowledging that something needs to change. You deserve a fulfilling and loving relationship, and with the right tools and commitment, it’s possible to rebuild the connection with your spouse.


Still wondering whether divorce is the right option for you?
Reach out for a consultation or explore our Marriage Retreat options to get the support you need to make an informed decision about your future together.


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Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

Picture of Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

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