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15 Positive Signs of a Healthy Marriage: Expert Insights from a Relationship Therapist

Celebrating the Strengths of Your Marriage: 15 Green Flags to Look For

We often hear about red flags in relationships—the signs of distress or disconnection. But it’s just as important, if not more so, to recognize the green flags—the signs that your marriage is not just surviving, but thriving.

After working with many couples over the years, we’ve seen firsthand what makes a relationship strong and lasting. These green flags are the markers of a healthy partnership, grounded in mutual respect, emotional safety, and intentional growth.

Whether your marriage reflects many of these traits or you’re still working toward them, recognizing and celebrating these signs is a powerful step toward deepening your connection.

1. Effective Communication: Strengthening the Core

Healthy communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about connecting. When both partners feel heard and understood, trust grows. It’s about being honest without being hurtful, and listening with the intent to understand, not just to respond. Rabbi Shlomo encourages couples to speak honestly and listen with care. When both partners feel heard, seen, and understood, it creates safety and connection—the heart of a lasting relationship.

2. Mutual Respect: Valuing Each Other as You Are

Respect in marriage means honoring your partner’s thoughts, differences, and individuality—even when you disagree. A solid relationship creates space for each person to feel valued and safe to be themselves. Rabbi Shlomo helps couples shift from reacting to differences with frustration to recognizing them as essential ingredients for growth and partnership.

3. Emotional Safety: The Foundation of Marital Intimacy

Emotional safety is essential for a healthy marriage. It’s the feeling that you can be your true self without fear of judgment or rejection. In the realm of Imago Therapy, creating emotional safety involves acknowledging and responding to each other’s emotional needs and vulnerabilities. When partners feel emotionally secure, they’re more likely to share their deepest thoughts and feelings, leading to a stronger emotional bond and deeper intimacy.

4. Shared Goals and Values: Rowing in the Same Direction

When couples are aligned on their core values—whether it’s family, faith, finances, or future plans—it builds a strong foundation. You may not agree on every detail, but a shared vision makes navigating life’s ups and downs easier. We helps couples clarify these shared values to reconnect around what truly matters.

5. Maintaining Individual Identity: Two Whole People, Together

Healthy couples support each other’s independence. Personal interests, friendships, and time apart aren’t threats—they’re signs of security and maturity. Being able to grow both individually and together enriches the relationship. In Rabbi Shlomo’s work, he encourages each partner to maintain their sense of self—because thriving as individuals allows the relationship to grow in richer, more authentic ways.

6. Active Listening: Really Hearing Each Other

Listening well is about more than staying quiet until it’s your turn to speak. It means tuning in to what your partner is feeling beneath the words, validating their experience, and showing empathy even when you see things differently.

7. Empathy: Seeing Through Each Other’s Eyes

Empathy builds connection. It means being able to step into your partner’s world and respond with understanding rather than defensiveness. When both partners do this, conflict becomes less about winning and more about connecting. This kind of deep connection is something Rabbi Shlomo fosters in every session with the couples he works with.

8. Healthy Conflict Resolution: Growing Through the Tough Moments

Disagreements are natural, but they don’t have to be destructive. In a strong marriage, conflict becomes a doorway to greater understanding—not something to fear or avoid. What matters is how you repair, not how perfectly you agree.

9. A Growth Mindset: Evolving Together

The healthiest couples embrace change and growth, both as individuals and as a team. They’re willing to learn from mistakes, adapt to new phases of life, and keep showing up for each other with curiosity and commitment.

10. Physical and Emotional Affection: Staying Connected

Affection keeps the relationship warm. It’s found in everyday moments—holding hands, a kind text, a long hug at the end of the day. These small gestures reinforce connection and security.

11. Trust and Honesty: The Pillars of Strength

Trust takes time to build, but it’s essential. Being reliable, keeping your word, and choosing honesty over avoidance fosters a deep sense of safety in the relationship.

12. Laughter and Joy: Sharing the Light Moments

Couples who laugh together stay connected through life’s challenges. Shared joy isn’t just a bonus—it’s part of what makes the journey enjoyable. A little humor goes a long way in keeping things light and loving.

13. Support for Each Other’s Dreams: Being a True Teammate

Being each other’s cheerleader means showing up with encouragement and belief in your partner’s goals. You don’t have to share the same dreams, but you do need to care about what matters to each other.

14. Gratitude and Appreciation: Noticing the Good

A thank-you. A compliment. A moment of sincere recognition. Regular appreciation shifts the tone of a relationship from criticism to connection. It’s about choosing to see and acknowledge what’s going right.

15. Commitment to the Process: Staying In It Together

Marriage is not a one-time decision—it’s a daily choice to keep showing up, even when things get hard. Resilience comes from the willingness to face challenges side-by-side, with the belief that repair and reconnection are always possible.

Nurturing Your Marriage, Day by Day

These green flags aren’t just signs that your marriage is in a good place—they’re also the practices that help keep it there. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s intention.

Every couple faces struggles. What sets thriving marriages apart is the commitment to work through those struggles with honesty, empathy, and love.


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If you’ve noticed areas where your relationship could use more connection or clarity, know that help is available. Rabbi Shlomo has worked with couples around the world to restore, repair, and reignite their relationships through personalized coaching and private marriage retreats.

No matter where you’re starting from, it’s possible to create a marriage that feels joyful, safe, and alive again.

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Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

Picture of Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Shlomo & Rivka Slatkin

Rabbi Shlomo Slatkin is an Imago relationship therapist and certified (master level) Imago workshop presenter with over 20 years of experience hosting couples therapy retreats in-person and online.

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