Is divorce worth it? Let’s think about the pros and cons of divorcing your spouse.
On the one hand, you might think you’ll able to leave behind a painful relationship, and get to start anew. Perhaps you’ll even find someone better.
On the other hand, you’ll have to pay alimony, have less money, share custody of the kids, and start dating again. This is not to mention dealing with your ex if you have kids, which may be even more difficult than when you were married.
Divorce is not the best long term solution.
While divorce may seem the best way to relieve the immediate pain, it’s usually not the best long-term solution. Sometimes women look forward to the freedom that they think divorce is going to give them-not having to care for a husband – but they often wind up feeling lonely, especially if their ex remarries quickly. Husbands often feel they’ll be rid of what feels to them like their wife’s emotional outbursts but they soon discover that it’s not easy being alone.
That’s why it’s worth trying to save your relationship. If you’re successful, you’ll not only avoid all of the downsides of divorce, you’ll enjoy all the positive of a happy, loving relationship. If you don’t succeed, at least you gave it a chance.
Whether or not you ultimately decide to get a divorce, you’ll always be connected to your spouse if you have children, so it behooves you to learn how to communicate with your spouse.
Even if a professional or friend is advising you to divorce for these top divorce reasons, we still have hope for you. We’ve seen even the most difficult couples succeed at saving their relationship and avoiding divorce and if you keep reading our material, you will likely be one of those couples as well. Contact us through our contact form if we can be of more assistance to you.
With best wishes for your relationship success,
Shlomo and Rivka Slatkin